Okay, so my sister is my best friend ever, and I have never lied to her. Her boyfriend told me he is going to propose soon and showed me the ring. I obviously haven't told my sister, but I had a message on my cell phone saying she found a receipt for a ring sizing from Kay Jeweler's and wanted to know what I thought it was for. I don't know if I should ignore the phone the call, call her back and say I don't have any idea, or call her back and hint that her boyfriend may have gotten her a ring for her graduation (so she won't be suspicious and his proposal will be a real surprise). Is it okay to lie in this situation, and what would be the best option? I don't want to ruin the surprise...but I also want to know if it's okay for me to tell a white lie to my best friend. Thanks.
2007-05-22 13:17:58 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thats a no brainer...Say nothing and dont ruin the surprise.
2007-05-22 13:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and lie!!!
There are differences between lies and white lies. A lie is something that can hurt someone. A white lie is a lie told so that no one will be hurt. See the difference? Don't tell your sister because then everything will be ruined!
2007-05-22 20:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Diana C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell he the truth, it will ruin the suprise! Maybe give her boyfriend the heads up that she is suspicious and then maybe he can say that he brought a ring for himself, or his mother or something lame like that.
I don't think she will blame you for not telling the truth, for something like this it is ok to keep it a secret, if she asks you again, say that you have no idea, but let her boyfriend know whats going on!
2007-05-22 20:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the white lie, especially if you know she's going to say yes to the proposal and really loves the guy.
Just imagine you're in her shoes. If it were me, I'd want my proposal to be a surprise. If she finds out later you knew about it, she'll probably just think it was cool that you were in on it.
That's my advice, keep it hush hush.
2007-05-22 20:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by beth c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GREAT question. I would say don't lie, cause if you do, she'll pick it up and be worried or scared. I had friends do that once and it freaked me cause I thought maybe my parents had been killed or something, I knew everyone was lying to me about something ... it was a surprise party but it was no fun sensing people lying to me. I'd suggest you contact the bf and tell him what happened. Maybe he can step up while it still IS a surprise.
2007-05-22 20:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by All hat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's OK to lie.
A good sister will do whatever it takes and lie until she's blue in the face to keep it a secret/surprise.
Bad lies are ones that hurt people. This isn't hurting anyone, and it's actually adding to to her joy when he does ask her.
2007-05-22 20:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by I Sprout A Blueberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation, which is a tough one, I would guide her away from the proposal. Like your example, tell her that he may have gotten it for her graduation, or for a family member. I'm sure she will forgive you if you tell a little fib, because she will surely love the surprise, it's a proposal. I wouldn't ruin it for her.
2007-05-22 20:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have not seen the receipt, you are assuming it for the ring question.
You could just say "It could be for his mother or if he has sister's for them" Mother's Day was just last week-end.
This way you are not telling lie, just making a statement of possibility.
If she ask you if you think it is for her? answer with a question, How would I know?
Best of luck, it is going to be tricky.
2007-05-22 20:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would normally suggest no lying... but in this situation, just pretend (cross your fingers behind your back) and say "I have no idea" and play along for her sake. You don't want to ruin the surprise her BF has for her.
But when he does propose to her and she gets the ring, then take your sis on the side and let her know that you did know, but promised her BF you wouldn't ruin it and that's why you had to say "I don't know."
She'll understand.
2007-05-22 20:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can keep it a secret. i am pretty sure if i was in her shoes i would be grateful that you didn't spoil the surprise. i would just play dumb and make out you know nothing. it is probably the simplest lie. if you go into to much detail about what it could be for the whole thing could spiral out of hand. so say "dont know" and leave it at that.
2007-05-22 20:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delete the text and ignore her calls until he does. Don't tell her until he has! And also if you are afraid of lying, in this case it's ok to lie if it will keep the surprise from being ruined.
2007-05-22 20:21:38 · answer #11 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋