My ex says shes pregnant but wont give me proof, what rights do i have to find out if she is or not???

Question

she told me that she is pregnant and we had sex 3 times in total. all the times with condoms and she says she was on birth control. i even pull out before i was finish. now im getting married and she tells me that she is pregnant with my kid. but wont give me proof. do i have the right for her to give me proof that she is, cause she is not providing this information to me. also she says she is getting an abortion but wont give me proof that she is going to do it.
is there anyway that i can get this information from her. she doesnt wanna provide it to me, so i need to see if theres any legal way to find out. i dont wanna have to deal with this in 9 months when the baby is born and she tries to get money out of me.
please help

ok, i wasnt cheating on my girlfriend. its gonna sound weird, but my current gf and i have been together for only a month and a half. but we been friends for at least 5 years, well friends with benifets. but we just decided after i broke up with the psycho gf. she had a bad relationship also, and we decided to elope, i think thats how you spell it. well we are getting married and the psycho found out about it and now she is telling me that she is pregnant. so there, i think thats all.

Answer 1

sounds like a stall tactic. Hire a private eye!

Answer 2

Well, maybe she found out you were getting married and this is a way to call your attention. It sounds strange that you refer to her as you ex, had sex with her three times in total, and now are getting married. She tells you she is pregnant, did she do this over the phone? Did you see her at all? how long ago was this, because by the third or fourth month she must be showing. It sounds like a really short time between ending the relationship with her and your getting married to another girl. If she has mentioned this to you she wants you to know, she also probably wants to know your reaction, and why would she tell you she will be getting an abortion? Is she doing this just to spite you, to make you feel guilty? Better find out what her intentions are. If she claims she is pregnant with your child then she should provide you with a pregnancy test, not the home test kind, but the kind that an OB Gyn can do, and you would have to consider a DNA test to find out if you are the biological father. If you are the biological father and recognize that child then you would have to be responsible for it and you can even stop the abortion if necessary. Sounds like a lot of noise, she might be doing it because she feels scorned. Maybe you should be more careful in the future.

Answer 3

Welcome to the 21st century. Women have all those rights, and you have none. Relax, there's nothing you can do about it - except threaten to get a good lawyer and demand custody of the kid. (That should shut her up!) You can't even get her medical history if she doesn't want you to.

Either:

(a) she's pregnant, and a DNA test proves you're the daddy, and you'll be paying child support for the next 18 years. (Unless you win custody - start collecting evidence about how unfit she is - meanwhile, you'll be married so the kid will have a stable 2-parent environment...)

(b) she's pregnant, but you ain't the daddy. DNA test will settle that. Not your problem.

(c) she is, but gets an abortion. Again, nothing you can do about that. However, no child support. I would hope for this as the best solution. Child doesn't need to grow up with a whacko for a mother...

(d) she's jerking your chain, trying to get you riled up, and make trouble with you and the future missus. Ignore her, call her bluff, wait a few months and ask her "where's the stomach? Couldn't eat fast enough to fake it properly?"

If you used condoms, and they didn't fall off or break, I'll bet on (d). It's hard enough to conceive when you want to. Unless, of course, she supplied the condoms, wanted to get knocked up, so stuck some holes in them.

If (a) - sue for custody. A lawyer would cost a lot less than 18 years of child support, I bet. Just the fact she's jerking you around should be starter proof that's she's unstable.

Answer 4

You can't take a pregnancy test a week after sex and expect it to be accurate. So stop asking her to take one now, it's a waste of time. She has to wait at least another week, and at this point she might as well just wait for her period. I know you'd like to know sooner, but Mother Nature doesn't care what you want. Frustrating, but true. These things take time, and you just have to wait. First I have to say that there is a chance she is pregnant, obviously. But there is no way she'd know that a week later. Most of the time, implantation hasn't even happened a week later. She would also not be getting "fat" yet if she got pregnant the month before. I don't need any more details. She is either imagining these symptoms out of fear, as a lot of teenagers do, or she's doing exactly what you suspect---messing with you. I'm tending toward the latter conclusion, but how could I tell really? You're the one who had sex with her. Whether she turns out to be a neurotic liar, or the mother of your child, or (worst case scenario) both, you picked her.

Answer 5

well hun first I want to say that no matter how many times you had sex and with whatever protection it is ALWAYS possible. There have been cases where a woman was on birth control and the man wore a condom and it still happened. With that said, I am a woman so I hate admitting this but some women will tell men that just to keep them. I am afraid there is no way for you to know until she actually has a baby. Even if she starts to show, then it may or may not be yours still. If the girl you are marrying loves you then she will understand that, that is in your past. If indeed this girls has a child you can always request a DNA test to make sure. Then take care of the kid as you should, your new wife should understand and accept this part as well. Good luck!

Answer 6

No. There is no legal way that you can make her give you proof. However, I would talk to a lawyer and ask him. I'm sure he will tell you the same thing. I would however be prepared just in case she is pregnant. Your first step would be to deny that the child is yours until you take a paternity test. Without that paternity test, she cannot prove you are the father and you will not have to pay child support regarding this child. However, if you are the father, you will pay regardless. Honestly, I think she's a little spiteful. Give her some time and don't deal with her drama. This is just what she wants. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Unfortunately she does not have to give you proof of her being pregnant or getting an abortion. If you used condoms plus she really was on birth control then I wouldn't worry about it. It sounds like she doesn't want you to get married. She might want you back and is trying to come up with something to make you stay with her. If she ends up being pregnant and goes through with the pregnancy after the baby is born then you can definately demand a paternity test! Goodluck

Answer 8

Once the baby is born you can do a blood test. I don't know why she won't give you proof that does seem odd. I would tell her to show you medical records. I think you just unfortunately need to wait. You may have a suit if she never was pregnant but I would not want to encourage her. If she is making this up she is a psyco, but it wouldn't be the first time.

Answer 9

You say she is your ex. By that I suppose you were married and are now divorced. If this is the case, go back to judge that gave the divorce and tell him what she said. He will either haul her back to court to testify or get her on record as saying she is not pregnant. If she does maintain she is pregnant and you can create reasonable doubt, the judge can order her to take a pregnancy test.

If she gets too spiteful with the judge, he can even order an amniotic DNA test. Especially if she says she is going to get an abortion. Because, if that test shows you are the father, you have a say so to whether or not she gets an abortion.

Answer 10

I hate to sound like a B**ch but ....

If she won't give you proof - dr confirmation - and she also says she is having an abortion, cover your butt. Have her "sign on it". Take her to a notery and for $10 - $20 you can have proof that she said she was ending the pregnancy. If she chooses to then continue the pregnancy - you are not responsible. Make sure the note is clear. Make her sign that she will not (nor will the child if she changes her mind) ever contact you in regards to all parental responsibilities.

Answer 11

I wouldnt let this girl bother you. She sounds jealous, and is just trying to mess with your head, and its working!! If you used condoms and pulled out, do you really think she is pregnant? Unfortunately there is no legal way you can prove that this supposed child is yours until its born. Thats if there even is a child. Talk to your new partner about it, just so shes in the picture, and dont sweat it! She'll get bored and pick on someone else soon!