Ok look my best friend in the whole wide world is going through something and she won't tell me what it is! I no that something is up though because she is cutting...i love her like a sis and i don't need anymore drama in my life! I would die if somthing bad happen to her! I just don't know what to do anymore!!!
2007-05-22 11:52:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
all you really can do is let her know that your there for her, sometimes thats the most important part, if she's ready to come to you with her problem i'm sure she will but don't pressure her into it, make sure she knows how much you care about her, and will do anything to help her
2007-05-22 11:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by prplfae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her Mother. You need to tell someone that can either get her to stop or get her some place to get her to stop.
Tell her, don't make excuses to not tell her mother. Unless her mother is a lunatic and her home life is crazy if you know what I mean. But when your young your parents or other peoples parents are the last people you want to turn to, but your wrong in most all cases they are the first people you should turn to when a situation has gone over the edge like this has.
Ok, not happy with that...tell your mom about it. But do something. Don't be like the girl in the commercial waiting on the side of the train tracks waiting for her friend to walk off the tracks because theres a train speeding right at her, and her friend just stands there and doesn't help her....that motivate you to help your friend now. Don't be so afraid to help someone else. You love this person she won't let you in, what the f#ck are you suppose to do. Go do it....for your sis.
2007-05-22 12:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cutting themselves is a very serious situation. It can be a sign of depression. It sounds like something horrible is eating your friend up inside. Tell your friend how much you love her. Tell her no matter what it is, she is going through you will be there for her. That you will not judge her. Talk to a counselor at school or a pastor etc. Please do it very soon. Don't feel bad if you talk to a professional about your Friend. Think about this please. Would you feel better for helping your friend. What will feel like if you don't seek help for your friend and she harms herself, some one else, or she kills herself. Its very difficult to be a teenager these days. Especially if you don't feel comfortable talking to an adult about you problems. My son, tried cutting his wrist with his braces on his teeth. Because his dad and I were getting a divorce. Medical help was sought for him. God Bless You! another mom that cares.
2007-05-22 12:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by lfahrne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have cut before and i got some help...its a really hard thing to go through and what you need to do is tell someone about it! she needs help whether she wants it or not. My best friend told my parents and i was ed at her at first but you get oveer it and realize it was for the best! also give her a list of alternatives like throw ice at trees, write a poem, take a shower, call a friend, put ice on ur wrists, or squeeze ice. Dont press her to tell u whats wrong! thats up to her. you can find a ton more alternatives at different sites! hope i was some help
2007-05-22 11:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is cutting, you can't help. She needs real mental health help and will only use you as a reason to cut. Sorry to say, but she and you are better off not being friends anymore. You don't need the drama and she doesn't need any extra reasons to cut.
2007-05-22 11:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know she is cutting then u need to get her help u or someone else trust me i have a friend who did the same thing i talk to her about it @ 1st she didn't know that i knew she was cutting but after i told her i knew she talked to me about it and she been to pretty good since then and drama is in everyone's life there isn't any way to make it go away in less you deal with it; so deal with her and help her and if she doesn't talk to you about it then you need to find someone who she will talk to about it before she goes to far!
2007-05-22 12:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by lost angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she obvioulsy is in real pain. Cutting usually comes from some serious pain one suffered as a child. She could be just now dealing with somthing from her past. Maybe molestation or rape (just a guess)....I've know people who've done this and they were all molested.
Being a good friend to her and not passing judgement will be a great comfort to her. Stick with her...she should talk soon. Great to have a friend like you!
2007-05-22 11:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by lane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am familiar with that sort of situation. You are a good friend for recognizing harmful behavior, and now you need to confront her about it.
i would highly suggest being as openminded and understanding as possible. She may be afraid to talk to you about whatever is happening because she is afraid of being judged. best friend for 10 years or 1 year, she may still be afraid.
the first way to do that... is to not get all nervous or scared or paranoid over cutting. if she wanted to kill herself by cutting, she'd have done it already. most people cut to distract pain from the heart. you dont have to be judgemental with her, just reassure her over and over that you are judge-free and there for her, and that you love her.
i think she'll open up
2007-05-22 11:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she is very lucky that she having a friend like you.....
You should talk with her n try to solve the problem.When you speak with somebody n shear your problem,i think at that time you feel 50% liter so use this formula N help her with true heart.
Go for walk,Go in Garden.Go this kind of place where you both can find peace of mind.She will be normal again.
2007-05-22 12:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Aniruddh D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u havent already then u have to tell someone what is up. After that, u need to tell her that u are there for her and will always be there for her. sometimes there are just those things that no other person can know. Try to get her to know that u really care and ask her if anything is wrong what i waould say would be like " Okay... i know some thing is wrong. listen, u need to tell me... i am ur best friend and u r supposed to tell me when something is up. I need to know so that i can help." that is what i would say....but say what u must to get the message through. good luck.
PLEASE email me to tell me what happens i wouls like to know. ask anything anytime...im always here
2007-05-22 12:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by Meagan R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if under the age of 18, talk to her and her parents. Let her parents know they can get her help that you can't get or give her.
If she's over the age of 18, well if your in college, try taking her to the councler, talk to a teacher, tell her you want to help her and that you'll be there ( if you so choose to be) 100% to get her through this.
Other wise it's up to her. Sadly there isn't much you can do.
2007-05-22 11:57:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋