Is 38 or 39 weeks too late for a shower?

Question

My self absorbed mother plans to throw me a shower when I am 38 or 39 weeks pregnant. I tried to explain to her that the baby may be here by then and I would like to have a shower at least 4 weeks before my due date (36 weeks at the latest).

She told me that she is "too busy" to throw me a shower anytime before 38/39 weeks. I am 27 weeks now and this is my first baby, I would like time before the baby is born to wash things and get things ready, especially since I plan to work up until the day I go into labor.

What do I do? Don't you think 38 or 39 weeks is way too late for a baby shower? Should I let my friend throw me the shower instead since my mom is too busy?

Answer 1

Yes. Why don't you tell your mom that your friend is throwing you one too. Then she can throw you another. I mean, it is risking it having it that late. And being that late in your pregnancy, you automatically go into your nesting mode. You have to feel that your place is ready for a baby to come home to. I totally understand where you're coming from. Another thought may be to approach your mom in a nice way and tell her that you want to take the load off of her, not to fell bad at all, but that your friend wants to help her out.

Answer 2

I understand your concern that baby may arrive before the baby shower takes place. I also don't blame you for wanting a little more time before baby arrives to get everything ready. Not to mention that 1 week before your due date doesn't leave you much time if you still need to buy things after the baby shower is over (which you probably will.)

If you have a friend who has offered to throw you a baby shower earlier (ideal time is 6 - 8 weeks before your due date) then I would graciously accept her offer, and tell your mother that since the shower was an obvious inconvenience in light of her busy schedule, that you appreciate the gesture, but you have decided to let Jane Doe do it instead. She will probably be relieved, but be prepared for her to protest. Just calmly and sweetly inform her that you think this will work out much better for everyone, and you just couldn't stand to be such a burden on her cramped schedule. Then change the subject. She will get over it!!

Whatever you decide to do, don't worry - I'm sure everything will work out okay. Congratulations on the baby, and enjoy your baby shower!

Answer 3

Wow, I'm almost in the same position. I'm having mine around 36 weeks though. And I feel like my baby could come by that time. But 38 to 39 weeks is a bit late. The baby may or may not come by that time, but I know what you mean by wanting everything to be ready. Instead try letting your friend handle the shower if it puts you at ease. Be aware that your mom may feel saddened or offended by this decision though. But, like I said whatever puts your mind at ease is the best decision. Good luck

Answer 4

Yes and yes. You could go into labor at 37 weeks and then what? So I'd say let your friend throw you the party and hopefully your mother can find time in her busy schedule to attend. I couldn't imagine my mother being so self centered. I am sorry for that. I am also pregnant with my first and want to be as prepared as I can be as well. Luckily, my mother isn't like that and she is actually coming up the weekend before my due date to help deep clean the house and organize the nursery, and will take 2 weeks off work after the baby's born to help. I am sorry your mother isn't as supportive. Hopefully your friends are as you'll need lots of help and support. Take care, good luck, and congratulations!!

Answer 5

No it is not to late for a shower, take the gifts and be excited that your family wants to make YOU a center of attention for a day. Everything today is all about the buck, diapers 6 dollars for the cheapest...bottles, diapers...ugh everything piles up. I would allow them to have a party, however make it KNOWN what you need and if they don't find what you need then just show up to spend the day with YOU...{another thing you could have the party after the baby is here, then MOM can get a restful day while everyone holds and changes the baby for you}-- giving you some well needed rest!

Answer 6

It's definitely too late, especially since you may have had the baby by then. It's usually done between 32-36 weeks. That gives you time to return things, whihc trust me you will have to do. You will be able to know what you still need, and like you said you can get things washed, etc....

Answer 7

I have not had a shower since we dont do them in this country. But I see nothing wrong with doing it when the babies a day old, let alone not born. Have the shower if you want it, make sure you do not over do since your heavily pregnant now.

Answer 8

I had my toddler bathe whilst i became only approximately 27 weeks pregnant. some days later, I went into exertions and had my twins lol. If we'd have waited any extra for the bathe, i would not are transforming into one! in case you finally end up having it so late, only get some friends to stay and enable you place issues away, and so on. solid success!

Answer 9

my mom planned it too late on accident, we thought the babu was coming later that it actually is. what i did i allowed my friend to have me one, because she had planned it sooner, so my mom didn't feel left out. once the baby comes we are going to have a get together so everone can meet the baby, and she is planning tha.

Answer 10

yeah, that is too late. most people have the shower in their 7th or 8th month, this is done so that if u need to grab anything else u have plenty of time.

have your mom throw a welcome baby home party.