The daughter of a fellow of mine, 13 yo,got a really harsh punishment for her mom, for bad behavior. She joined bad crowds, did bad and wrong stuff, though she's a good girl For 1 month the girl, except for school time, has to be in bed all the time, including weekends and holydays. No TV, computer, etc. Friends just for homework at her bedside. The girl, of course, is allowed to use the bathroom, for the strictly necessary time.
Her mom said she has an electronic device similar to a camera, a kind of sensor that can register when the girl gets up and comes back to bed. So her mom can control her punishment without having to watch the girl 24/7. With such device she can know how many times the girl left her bed and for how much time, and decide if it was reasonable for bathrommneed or not.
I think this punishment is simply cruel and can cause seriuos psychological damages. In my opinion its even child abuse.
2007-05-22 09:53:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
In my opinion not knowing the girl, how bad she is, what shes like etc.. I'm not Positive on the nature of her punishment. Although I do think thats a little much for a punishment. She should not be allowed electronics etc...or friends..but to have to stay in bed..I don't think thats right...how can she get exercise or stretch or what not...? I think the device itself is inappropriate and should only be used by a probational purpose. Keep your ears and eyes open for any other things you might think is going on Good luck to her..
*Shannyne*
2007-05-22 10:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by sobrietygirl88 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to say... The camera thing maybe to much but when I was in middle school we were watching Roots in history class and then had to do a report on it. So I ditched that class for the 3 days we watched the movie (this way I didn't have to do the report) My dad found out and made a deal with my teacher about me turning the report in late! Needless to say I had to read the book instead of watch the movie it took me over a month and until I was done I had to sit at the kitchen table everyday from the time I woke up at 7 till I went to bed at 9- I had 10 minute showers and my bathroom breaks were monitored! This went on for over a month... The way I see it the girl has it lucky, a bed is much more comfortable then a kitchen chair!! I turned out fine... and well never ditched school again!
2016-05-20 03:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me like they are trying to protect her and let her know what jail feels like, which is exactly where she is headed if she does continue to chill with the same crowds. She made the wrong choices and personally, I think this is quite a decent punishment. She is still home with her mother and father. She is still getting fed well. It isn't cruel. It is prison at home. Which is exactly what it should be. They are doing totally the right thing. One month is perfectly okay. So much better than several months or years in Juvie, is it not?
2007-05-22 10:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It edges on cruel. But you say a 13 year old girl did "bad and wrong stuff"--I think a severe punishment is deserved. The only psychological thing I see happening is that girl learning to embrace her time outside of her home and stick with the good crowds.
2007-05-22 11:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her mother did exactly what a good mother should do!!!
Once she's finished, with her punishment, she will think twice about things and not repeat them ever again - there's nothing psychologically wrong with learning right from wrong!
Child abuse, causing serious psychological damages, would arise if the mother beat the child. What the mother did - is the best thing she could have done without abusing her - it's called DISCIPLINE and discipline is NOT child abuse!!!
A great big salute to the girl's mother!!!
2007-05-22 10:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As long as she is being fed & given water it's not child abuse. I don't know what your friend did to get punished but it must have been bad. At least her mom cares enough to punish her. My oldest daughter was grounded for 3 months once for going to a party & smoking pot.
2007-05-23 10:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by foreverhoyt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see this punishment as cruel or abusive. It only lasts for one month, and provides for lots of time to reflect on negative outcomes and adjust future behavior to avoid worse.
Perhaps you should visit those group homes for girls who live with the results of bad choices--places where they are pregnant or new moms, trying to dry out from drugs, or are in halfway houses after being in prison.
These girls are on FULL-TIME restrictions that would make any normal person cry for them.
I feel sorry for her, sure, but even more sorry for her poor mom who had to resort to this level of boundary-setting in order to rein in a wayward little one.
2007-05-22 10:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on context. Perhaps mom was trying to make the point that running with a bad crowd will get you into jail which is what she was trying to mimic. I think a month is a little much, but jail would be worse. It is easy to judge from the outside, but try seeing where mom was tring to get to. Honestly, she would have had less freedom in Juvie.
2007-05-22 09:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's not nice. but a mother's job is not to be nice. i think it's a brilliant idea for a punishment. her daughter should see that her poor choice of friends and actions leads to consequences. that's a lesson that most kids don't learn because their parents don't step up to the plate and set down significant punishment. three cheers for this mom!
2007-05-22 10:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by erika w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cmon now!! that is so not abuse. i know girls who done nothing more than cut curfew and they get the crap beaten out of them. THATS abuse. but no one posts THEIR punishment on the internet tho. plz stfu, thx.
2007-05-22 12:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋