Ok my brother has been with this girl and last year they broke up and well she found out she was pregnant... well she went and got the morning after pill.. and now they are back together.. "it was def my brothers"... anyways... they told me this story this morning because i asked "so when am i going to have a neice or nephew".. and then they told me..
and well she was all sad.. and said that she sees it as if she had a abortion now!...(because she killed the seed).. well do you concider taking the morning after pill abortion?..
And what are some things i could say to her to boost her spirit about this?...
2007-05-22 09:00:14 · 31 answers · asked by lilmommy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
im not sure how she knew.. but she didnt go to a clinic for a abortion!...
she probably was having intercourse alot with my brother and maybe assumed she was pregnant and went and got the pill... I DONT KNOW..
2007-05-22 09:11:27 · update #1
and who cares how i spelt the word?.. i wasnt asking "are my words spelt correctly"...
2007-05-22 09:12:00 · update #2
I dont really consider that abortion....i feel like the morning after pill is just like birth control, you are preventing it befor it happens. Right? I thought that you take the morning after pill if you had unportected sex like if the condom broke or something like that. I dont know but no i dont consider that abortion. To me abortion it when you have a baby growing inside of you and you go to the clinic and they remove the baby from inside you.
Try to comfort her. Tell her not to worry about it. It will all work out and it will happen in its own time.
2007-05-22 09:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by greyc143 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it was the morning after pill, she would not and could not have know she was preggo. that pill only prevents pregnancy. now, there is an "abortion pill" which is a pill you can take i THINK up to 8 weeks in pregnancy (??) which does basically kill the fetus; so that would be abortion... if it was the morning after pill, she would not have "killed the seed" it just would have prevented her form ovulating, not killed anything.
some things you could say to her; just tell her the timing wasnt right for them, and it was what was best for them at the time. tell her youre there for her, if they are planning a pregnancy, help her plan; help map out her pregnancy, figure her ovulation cycle, basically just be there as a friend and a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. its hard going through an abortion or a miscarriage, even if it is all in our master plan, its always hard to deal with a loss, whether it be our own choice or natures. look up some more info on google or something and show her stats on the morning after pill, show her (if thats really what it was; not the abortion pill) it really wouldnt be abortion, explain how the pill actually works if she doesnt know already.
2007-05-22 16:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't think the morning after pill would work after she found out she was pregnant. That's why they call it the morning after pill. You wouldn't know if you were pregnant until at least a couple weeks after conception, then it would be too late. If she took the morning after pill, then the embryo wouldn't even had been more than a couple cells. And conception may have not even occured. The morning after pill is a "just in case I got pregnant" type of thing. My stand is that it is no different than birth control essentially, so it's not abortion unless you consider any birth control as abortion. Just be supportive of her, that's all I can really suggest.
2007-05-22 16:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Amsiar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been pregnant (successfully) three times (currently 30 weeks). In none of my pregnancies was I aware and able to test accurately in enough time to have taken the morning after pill, had I wanted to! The longest they are effective is 120 hours, or five days, after unprotected sex, and, at that point, their effectiveness is minimal; you still run the risk of becoming pregnant.
There is no effective pregnancy test, including blood tests, that will tell you if you are pregnant until at least a week of conception; most home tests are not accurate until you have at least missed a period, and even then a lot of them will give false negatives. In the window of three to five days, it isn't possible to accurately determine that you are pregnant and then cause an abortion!
"Killing the seed" isn't the same as killing a baby (and I have trouble with that terminology anyway, even after being pregnant with three!) Taking the morning after pill is no different than taking regular birth control, or using a spermicidal condom; in all cases, the sperm is prevented from fertilizing the egg, and, in the last case, IS actually killed! There's no baby, so no abortion!
If she WAS pregnant (had an actually fertilized and implanted embryo growing inside her), and somehow caused herself to no longer be pregnant, then, yes, that is an abortion. I have trouble condemning her for her choice, if that's what she did; for some women, that feels like the only possible recourse; for some, it IS the only thing possible (as in cases where the mother's health is put at risk, such as with an ectopic pregnancy, or cases where the baby has been diagnosed with a fatal disease). If she did, it is a decision she'll have to come to terms with, in her own time.
In the meantime, you can help her get information on the morning after pill, so that she'll see that taking it is not the same as having an abortion. If she did, indeed, have one, she and your brother will have to deal with that together, but there are support groups, including online forums, for women who have had abortions. Have her talk to her doctor, or go to Planned Parenthood; they may be able to direct her to some in the area. She might even consider seeing a grieve counselor. For your part, just be supportive. What's done is done. Try not to judge, and give her a shoulder if she needs it.
2007-05-22 16:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by pernrider480 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The morning-after pill — a form of emergency birth control — is used to prevent a woman from becoming pregnant after she has had unprotected sex.
Human conception rarely occurs immediately after intercourse. Instead, it occurs as long as several days later, after ovulation. During the time between intercourse and conception, sperm continue to travel through the fallopian tube until the egg appears. So taking emergency birth control the "morning after" isn't too late to prevent pregnancy.
The active ingredients in morning-after pills are similar to those in birth control pills, except in higher doses. Some morning-after pills contain only one hormone, progestin (Plan B), and others contain two, progestin and estrogen. Progestin prevents the sperm from reaching the egg and keeps a fertilized egg from attaching to the wall of the uterus (implantation). Estrogen stops the ovaries from releasing eggs (ovulation) that can be fertilized by sperm.
The morning-after pill is designed to be taken within 72 hours of intercourse with a second dose taken 12 hours later.
Morning-after pills aren't the same thing as the so-called abortion pill, or mifepristone (Mifeprex). Emergency contraceptive pills prevent pregnancy. The abortion pill terminates an established pregnancy — one that has attached to the uterine wall and has already begun to develop.
So the morning after pill would not help or have helped if she was already pregnant. It helps one to not become pregnant - when the possibly fertilized egg does not implant to her insides, it should be even an abortion than IVF (in IVF they usually fertilize several eggs outside the woman's body .. one of which will only live, if even that).
If anyone considers morning after pills an abortion, then either they don't know how they work, OR they should consider IVF abortion as well.
2007-05-22 16:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by uninorth13 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the morning after pill is considered abortion, because you are preventing a pregnancy from happening just like taking the pill or using a condom. If she knew she was pregnant she wouldnt have been able to take the morning after pill because that is only given the morning after you had unprotected sex not once you knew you were pregnant! If she knew then she took something else and is only telling you she took the morning after pill...odd
2007-05-22 16:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by bakosanic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the "morning after pill" is just a large dose of hormones taken 24-72 hours after unprotected sex; it would not cause an abortion.
if she was actually "pregnant" she would have had to go to a clinic and get RU486
unless she had a positive pregnancy test and medically aborted the baby all she did was take a precaution to not get pregnant. there is a possibilty that she was not "knocked up" to begin with. the "morning after pill" is not guaranteed to avoid pregnancy. if a woman hasn't started her period in 2 weeks from when she took the pill she has to return for pregnancy testing.
tell her to stop. she's freaking out for no reason.
when she actually loses a baby she'll know. its a void that enters your soul.
2007-05-22 16:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by sanna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she found out that she was, indeed, pregnant and THEN took the morning after pill, then that would meet the definition of abortion. Whether or not it was wrong or not is such a matter of debate that I have no opinion on it either way. As far as boosting her spirit, it will simply take time. Encourage her and support her, and she should be fine. If she does not eventually come to grips with it, then she should see a counselor or therapist. Either way, it is very nice of you to want to help!
2007-05-22 16:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough. There's no guarantee that she would have even gotten pregnant from that time. The morning after pill doesn'[t always prevent pregnancy either. When it's meant to be, it's meant to be. And just because she took the pill doesn't mean she was gonna get pregnant. She was just taking an extra precautionary measure. It's just like birth control....stops the egg from getting implanted. But, it isn't like abortion at all because the egg wasn't probably even fertilized yet.
2007-05-22 16:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It a very personal perspective and different to everyone, but I definitely do not consider this scenario abortion. The morning after pill stops the pregnancy from actually happening, it doesn't kill a fetus.
She should maybe discuss this with her doctor or a therapist, so that she can fully understand how the morning after pill works, and lose her guilt...she has nothing to feel guilty for. She made the best choice with her circumstances.
I wish her the best.
2007-05-22 16:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by samantha 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋