I've been getting real close to my friend within the past year. We go hang out all the time(movies,parties,just chillin), and he met my parents. I finally told him how I felt which was I really like him. I never said anything about a relationship though. Were graduating soon and he used that excuse as to why he wasn't looking for a girlfriend right now. But, when I told him where I got accepted he got excitied and said that he also got accepted to the same college. When he found out my parents didn't want me to go so far away from them, I had to turn down that acceptance and now he just seems so distant. I don't know what to do because I know that we both like each other, cause he wanted me to go back to NY with him, but on what level of relationship? Friendship, or what?
2007-05-22 08:07:46 · 6 answers · asked by Rere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he probably thinks that your still too stuck up under mom and dad to make your own decisions and he better cut his losses now. Why did you turn down a college to stay closers to your parents? WHY would they ask you to do that? Time to put your BIG girl panties on and start thinking for yourself.
2007-05-30 07:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Newtron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I woundn't worry about him too much, it sounds like he is going to be quite a ways away from you any how. Long term relationships are really hard to deal with especially when you are your age. I would just leave with the asumption that you had fun and you might pick up where you left off later down the road or you might not, there are more people out there shop around.
2007-05-28 21:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't for the love of god think that friendship doesn't equal relationship!!!! That is the single most devasting social norm we've got. Understand that at the core of every deep, meaningful relationship is a friendship. The fact is sex, romance, anyone can do!!!! But to be true friends, to be that caring, that compassinate, that close, that takes two very special people. Don't do like others and not see that friendship is so much more intense, so much more important, so much harder to find, then romance....
2007-05-23 13:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both are at a time where your finishing one chapter of your life and moving on to another. It's not unlike guys or girls to want to take this time and become independent. I wouldn't take it personally but he probably just doesn't want to start something, since long distant relationships tend to be harder, (especially in college). I wouldn't be upset about it. You have a new life to start too and who knows who you'll meet! If you two are meant together, it'll work out!
Good luck :-)
2007-05-29 08:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, it isn't up to your parents where you go to school.
If you want to go to school in new york, then go!
You can be with him if you want to then, because you'll both be together. You're graduating. You're not mommy's / daddy's baby anymore. Remember that! Do what you feel is right.
I'd move there. If you think it's really far from home, or things don't work out, transfer back home.
2007-05-30 15:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Hockey_Babe_Forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't turn down the acceptance because your parents don't want you to go that far, its your life not theirs, you want to go up there and be with him, so do it
2007-05-30 09:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by danielle c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋