He wants to start all new. Anything that happened in the past is the past, and from where he stands today we got married. It kinda hurts me that he wants to start all over..I know it will be good, but at the same time, he doesn't feel the happiness and everything like he did before but he really wants it back, he wants the love and emotion back but wants it to start all over again. ( maybe to get it right this time) But I'm scared I will feel left out, or unwanted. How do I not feel this way when I get back?
We didn't seperate because of cheating, we seperated because I'm pregnant and I got scared he didn't want me or the baby because he was freaking out about everything , sleeping on the couch, not talking, etc. So I thought leaving would give him what he wanted. ( I guess most men freak out with the first baby) But now he is all about his baby and me ( babymama at the time) Any advice???
2007-05-22 07:43:38 · 14 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is such great news for you. I'm so happy for you. It's really positive that he wants to start anew. It's not negative at all. Be patient. Pick your battles. Alot of its hormones right now anyway. Prego women are NOT normal. Remember, communication. Don't let the sun go down on your anger. Don't let foxes into your bed. Don't sulk or allow sulking. Just love each other. This is so awesome. I'm very happy for you. Now when ya get back, ya gotta change you avatar back to its orginal smile....
2007-05-22 07:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congrats and good luck on getting back together. Sometimes its best to go back to the basics and start again. Life just works out that way . The hard part is going to be starting all over again without incorporating bits of the past. Take one day at a time and dont push it any faster than the two of you can deal with. Men sometimes do really have a hard time dealing with becoming a first time father si his actions were normal and Im really glad for you that he could get his life together so quickly. True you will have to share dad with the baby and will feel left out but again this is normal and will pass in time and soon youll wish you had it back. Again congrats and all the best to you all .
2007-05-22 07:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that's tough. First off, the baby you're carrying: your ex-hubby's or ex-boyfriend's? If it's your ex-hubby's (I don't think so, right?) then you've got a great chance of getting back together with him, because the very thing that tore you two apart is now going to bring you together. However, if it's your ex-boyfriends(pretty likely) then it's going to be more difficult. If you really love your ex-hubby, you've got to try to patch things up or you'll regret it. Call him over the phone to set up a date, and sit him down and explain things. When he realizes you're pregnant, he'll be pretty upset knowing you had sex with another man, your married ex-boyfriend no less. But make him listen to your whole story and tell him how you feel. If he needs time and space, give it to him, but make sure to tell him that you do love him and he's the only one you want. Tell him to call you when he's had time to mull things over. With any luck, you'll be back together. Hope I helped and good luck! P.S. Just a little note that you might want to know: your ex-hubby's going to feel insufficient and his ego gonna take a hell of a knocking down at the fact that you were able to get pregnant TWICE by your ex-boyfriend in just a short fling while two years with him brought no success. Be sensitive!
2016-05-20 01:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by glenna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is good that he wants to start anew with his family. Pregnancy causes your hormones to go all out of whack which could have contributed to the stress and anxiety that you were experiencing. Men aren't the best at communicating their inner most feelings a lot of the times. Your emotions were bouncing off of each other and it can be extremely frustrating. Sit down with your husband and get everything out in the open. I get the feeling that you both love each other, because neither one of you would consider reconciling if you didn't. Pray together and ask God to guide you in your decisions. I wish the three of you the best. Congratulations.
2007-05-22 08:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by TrayHoo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing to try again, for everyone's sake including the baby. It won't be easy but it can be even better than before if you keep the lines of communication open. Make sure you talk through how both of you are feeling, what you're afraid of and what you're expecting from each other. It sounds like some reassurance is needed on both sides.
2007-05-22 08:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by AngelBleu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATS! i hope everything turns out the way you hope it will! as far as getting things back and not getting scared the best thing to do is communicate and express you worries with each other! spend time together like whe you first were married! have lots of sex talk about stupid fun stuff! go shopping together for baby stuff, dont worry so much i am sure things will fall into place! GOOD LUCK!
2007-05-22 11:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, Pumpkin! He sounds like a good man, trying to do the right thing, and I think he is going to turn out to be a keeper. Don't be scared. You guys will work it out. And I think that the magic WILL return! When you look for magic, and really believe, you will always find it....
2007-05-22 08:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it may workout! Like you said, no one cheated it was just a shocker over the pregnancy. If it happens again, I would suggest leaving for good. But it nice to try it out again.
2007-05-22 07:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men get nervous when they are expecting a baby.
They start worrying about finances.
Don't panic. Everything will work out.
He Loves You! That is why he wants you back!
Good Luck to you and your new family.
2007-05-22 08:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just take it one day at a time. I know men freak out but, now its a little late. Did you guys talk about having kids before you got pregnant? Sex leads to children if you don't take precautions......
2007-05-22 08:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋