I need support, can you help me?

Question

I feel like giving up on life, people around me treat me like their personal scapegoat, they can be so mean, I have so much stress, trust me I have issues...every day is a struggle, I'm so overwhelmed--can anyone help me--any words of advice and/or wisdom? I would greatly appreciate it..thanks.

*Guess I should've added this major detail earlier, (sorry) the people who are treating me horribly/abusing me verbally are my family--mostly my dad & sister. It's embarassing to admit...:-(

Answer 1

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Now I just want to let you know beforehand that I'm a Christian, so my advice is coming from a faith-based background. Anytime I feel stressed or like giving up I go to the people I trust and know will encourage me. I have my mentor and two best friends, but more importantly...I have God. He's the one who ALWAYS brings me peace and is able to comfort me. Now a lot of people feel that God is so far away, they have an image of him living above the stars and outside the solar system. However, I've seen glimpses of Him through friends who have lent an ear when I needed someone to confide in or held me when I needed to cry. I completely understand if you are bitter and/or jaded with God, but if you ever need to talk, vent, etc...please feel free to e-mail me. My address is accessible is on my profile.

Answer 2

Hi. Don't worry you're not at it alone. Everyday for me is strssful as well. Life is very stressful, but don't give up. We can help ourselves feel better by trying to define who we are through something special and enjoying some of the sweeter aspects of life. Treat yourself and spoil yourself once a while. Try spending a sunday doing nothing but appreciating beauty, resting, reading, or anything you like. Meet new people here and just chat or out at new clubs where you can actually find people who will treat you the way you want to be treated. If you feel like you're not the you you want to be right now, then try a new identity and see how people take it and see how you like it. The stress of life can only get to us if we let it. If we find happiness elsewhere, the stress is just a part of life we don't pay attention to. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. Email if you like. Hope I helped you.

Answer 3

Hi Nicegal. Please don't give up. There are many jerks out there, it's true, but it is our own attitudes and abilities to deal with them that determine how are feelings are. Realize that it is THEIR rudeness, and that you didn't cause it. Also, you mention being treated like a scapegoat. They say that you can't be walked on unless you lay down. Sometimes people can smell a person who will be meek and let them be a bully to. Consider taking an assertiveness course. Have you thought about seeing a therapist? This is another option. Try to focus on the good moments and good people - they are truly out there.
Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

I'm sorry you feel this way. From the information you provided it seems like you are in fact the strong one and everyone leans on you. It can surely get overwhelming, especially if people do not express their appreciation for what you do for them. Keep being the strong person you are, it will surely pay off someday, I promise! Feel free to email me if you need to. It's about time someone else is the scapegoat.

Answer 5

I was RIGHT where you are, just a year or so ago, I felt overwhelmed, disrespected, and was taking care of sick family members, with little help from others...now, my family members have passed on, and I am alone, with no one to care for. I had no time for friends, or social life, back then. Now that it is "just me", I feel worse than when I (at least ) had things to take care of, and deal with. So, I guess what I'm trying to say, is..."hold on, keep doing what you feel is right, get some good, supportive friends, get away from people who mistreat you, as much as possible, and count the blessings you have, in spite of what is stressing you out right now!!" H-A-N-G IN THERE...you are ,"good people"!!!

Answer 6

Things can be so hard in life. I know that. And you're probably going to get people replying to this saying stuff like, "Shut up and stop complaining." But I know how you feel. I've been through stuff. I know what it's like to be overwhelmed. Maybe you should see a therapist or talk to a friend about how you feel.

Hope you feel better. Life can be so much better than this, I swear.

Answer 7

It would be easier to help if I knew what whas going on! but in general you need to stand up for yourself ,I dont know how old you are,so sometimes standing up for yourself can be difficult.But you have to be strong and confident you are a good person.find somewhere in your mind you can go and relax.and try doing something you enjoy like painting puzzles,listening ot music..anything small you find pleasure in ,you have to have something like that and it will help relieve your stress..dont let other people bring you down,,life is hard enough you dont want to add to it ..Im not saying life is gonna be easy ,everyones is different im saying find something that makes you happy and lets you clear your head , and remember you dont always have to carry everything on your shoulders you can just brush it off..and leave it behind you ...
if you give up onlife then you let hte very people who caused you the stress win and that isnt fair to you . you have aright ot enjoy life why let someone else ruin it for you ...good luck sweetie

Answer 8

When I am feeling down I try to get out and volunteer or try to help someone in need. Bake some cookies for a friend or bring a casserole to an elderly neighbor. Anything to take your mind off your troubles. I find my spirituality helps me a lot as I pray for strength. My cymbalta helps too. lol

Answer 9

Try to remember that you teach people how to treat you by letting them get away with things that are just wrong. Respect yourself and expect others to treat you will kindness, if they don't it's time to find a new group of friends who will bring you up and ne supportive. Feel good about yourself...it's not you, it's their problem.

Answer 10

i know how you feel. i think everyone in the world knows how you feel a time or two. even the people who have it seemingly perfect in their lives some where along the way in their life they will come across a person who they wanted to love, support, and be there for them but no matter how hard they tried people just walked away from them and there was nothing that they could do about it. right even to people who belong to the royal family. relationships do not always work. i am not just saying romantic relationships. it could also mean relationships with firends and other family members. now i noticed you were saying that you feel like giving up on life. that is the most rediculous thing you could do. i do not know how old you are or who it is who is walking on you but i promise if you start investing time in yourself and working for possitive things to come into your life you will be happier in your life. i would be willing to talk to you over the email if you need it. but what you need to do provided you are over the age of 18 and not living with the people who are hurting you is to just illiminate the people around you who are hurting you. if it is friends, or family members that are hurting you the reason they are hurting you is they themselves are miserable. any one who is truly happy never needs to make others feel bad because they are secure with themselves to not have to hurt other people. keep that in mind. ignore those who mean you harm. do something with your life. think of it this way if you do something with your life then you can leave all those people behind wishing that they were good to you years before. nothing worth having is easy to aquire. but never think about giving up on yourself, killing yourself, or anything that means yourself harm. good luck to you and like i said email me if you wish i do not mind letting you vent to me. take care.