How to think Positive?

Question

Anyone Advice? I'm having major problems in my life trying to find a way out?

Answer 1

I used to think negatively all the time. Then I read Richard Carlson's book "You Can Be Happy No Matter What." Richard Carlson also wrote "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff."

According to Carlson, most people think happiness is conditional and outside of themselves or expect that it is a fleeting feeling based on the events in their lives or their circumstances. They don't realize that their happiness is inside of them IN THE MOMENT.

According to Carlson, most people are unhappy because most of their thinking is negative. Negative thinking IN THE MOMENT leads to a negative feeling IN THE MOMENT which leads to a negative mood. Then the negative mood leads to a negative feeling in the moment which leads to more negative thinking in the moment. It becomes a viscous circle.

The reverse is also true. Positive thinking in the moment leads to positive feelings in the moment which leads to a positive mood.

The trick is not to try to feel better or think positively, the trick is to think positive thoughts and to FEEL GOOD. When I feel down, I don't try to change what I'm thinking/feeling, I just DELIBERATELY start thinking positive thoughts about things I like..

When you start to think or feel negative, STOP THINKING ABOUT WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING and DELIBERATELY start thinking about things that make you happy. You have to make a deliberate effort. I just say things to myself like "I like the song Forever Young by Rod Stewart, I like chocolate chip cookies, I like the movie French Kiss" By changing my focus I immediately change my feelings and then my thoughts automatically go back to positive. You might want to make a "Happy" list and carry it with you for those times when negative thoughts/feelings get the best of you.

Or, if you're not able to change your thinking in the moment, if you're able, DO something that makes you feel good (like listening to your favorite CD or watching a movie that makes you LAUGH).

Answer 2

it's all about choice. you control your emotions, or you let them control you.
life will throw things at you for the entire trip....there will never be a time when there is not one problem or another facing you....unless you look at those problems as challenges, as opportunities to be better than you are.
choose to be happy, choose to avoid letting the challenges in life get you down...it does work.

Answer 3

Try this:

http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000009.htm

hope it helps