it love, or is it a temporary thing ? He said that he loved me but that he was tired and worn out with taking care of an adult. His friend said that it could be true that he may not marry me. Any thoughts ? Also, he said that one of the reasons he said he took me back was that I had nowhere else to go. But on the flipside he is like we are going to get married aren't we ?
2007-05-22 06:32:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He said that he love me and was tired of taking care of an adult to his friend, not me.
2007-05-22 06:36:01 · update #1
( I am a vulnerable adult).
2007-05-22 06:37:23 · update #2
You can do SO much better... No where else to go is just a lousy excuse. You should break it off with him and tell him that you want your space. Completely ignore him until he calls at least 6 times a day. Then, start totally over with him if you think that he's serious. Make him take you out on dates and make sure that you make yourself "hard to get" and unavailable most of the time. Make HIM pin YOU down for get togethers and the like. If he really loves you and wants to marry you, then he'll be willing to bend over backwards to get your attention. And for goodness sake girl, read The Rules!!
2007-05-22 06:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by devon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, you might convince him to marry you, since he feels he has "nowhere else to go." But he'll never be happy, will probably be storing up resentment, and, if you're lucky, he'll divorce you after five years or so. (If you're not lucky, you can look forward to growing old with an increasingly bitter and resentful hubby. That sounds like fun, doesn't it.)
Your best move? Let the poor man go, then work on changing yourself from a "vulnerable adult" who needs to be taken care of, to one who can take care of herself. Then you will actually be able to find a relationship where you can both make each other happy, instead of one doomed to eternal suffering.
2007-05-22 13:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by stmichaeldet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him and leave it at that... he is being a child, I would never in my life stay with someone who is like that. If he is tired and worn out and that was the reason he "broke" up with you what do you think is going to happen the next time he is tired and worn out from actually doing work... everyone gets tired and worn out but they dont break up each time they feel like that. I would tell him to grow up and leave. and about the married arent we thing if he is asking like that then he is not 100% sure he wants to.
2007-05-22 13:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by n_fantino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married if your relationship is that unsure. It will just end in divorce. Which will be a lot of money and more pain than just letting him go or taking a break. Also maybe it would help if you get a job(if you don't have one already) and your own place for a while. I think he may be worried that you wont be able to carry your own weight in a marriage.
2007-05-22 13:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by queenb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I would do.
walk away
if it's meant to be then in the future you'll find each other again.. right now doesn't sound like the time and pity is not love... this doesn't sound like a healthy situation to me... so walk away at least until it becomes one.
again.. that's just me.. you have to decide for yourself what is best... but make sure it's what is best for you.. not anyone else.
2007-05-22 13:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to marry into a situation like this? Obviously ill fated. Run like the wind.
2007-05-22 13:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Moondog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real winner.
Don't play his game, and don't let him think that you need him. One thing that kills a lot of relationships for my friends is that they think they 'need' the other person when they could do just fine on their own.
2007-05-22 13:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by aonix 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to marry someone with so much drama.
2007-05-22 13:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by xrianya 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok, u need to get rid of him and stop expectin him to take care of you. that just sounds pitiifulll
2007-05-22 13:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋