NBC and ABC have both done reports on parents doing too much for the children-hovering like helicopters. Most experts agree parents are doing too much for their kids and it is harming them-especially when it carries into their child's adulthood. most children of helicopter parents would call their parents selfless. Don't you think its actually selfishness because its really a form of control?
2007-05-22 06:09:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
The problem with helicopter parents is that they are raising selfish, self-centered children with ridiculously high levels of self-esteem.
Part of the reason for this is the rise of the alpha-female or the soccer mom. You know these women because they have to act like urban generals, driving their urban assault vehicles with their little soldiers (their children) riding inside to their very regimented activities.
These people are the greatest scourge this nation has ever seen, and attack our personal freedoms way more than any terrorist ever has. The live in a constant state of fear, and want to child proof ever aspect of modern life to our detriment and our expense.
I do agree. It is total control. You have women brought up in the "self-esteem generation" who think that having a child is all about them. They actively show off their belly when they are first pregnant. They demand special treatment, closer parking spaces and special rules so they can have a child and career.
Then as the children get older, they still latch onto their child to be the "perfect mom."
Sure, having a kid can be a great thing, but this constant celebration is a bit much. Procreation is not that difficult.
It's people like this that make me keep praying for a plague.
2007-05-22 06:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Count Floyd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Our job as parents is to raise adults that can live responsibly and independently in the world. If you are a helicopter parent of an adult child one of two things happened. You are a control freak or you didn't do such a great job of raising your kid to be an independent adult.
Loving your kids is not about you, its about whats best for them. :-)
2007-05-22 06:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by babygyrl_nyc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the parents start out with good intentions and then just can't let go. There is a time when parents have to let their kids go it on their own and make their own way. These parents are living vicariously through their kids and it's bad.
2007-05-22 06:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being "one" of those "helicopter Parents", with my Son in college, and I am paying for him to be in College...
If I see him going out and getting drunk on my "dole", then he is OUTTA HERE!
I pay for him to go and study, and have a wee bit of fun, not to be trashed out of his mind all the time, wasting my money! (I can think of other things I would put thosands of dollars towards very easily!).
Say what you want, my Son is responsible enough that he knows, if he messes up and I find out about it... he is on his own, and "he" is going to foot the bill !
I wish you well....
Jesse
2007-05-22 06:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a form of control! Also, not trusting your kid to do things their way is not teaching them a darn thing! (ie, that you need to try it your way but be ready to live by the consequences)!
2007-05-22 06:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite! you may desire to enable them to income some issues on their very own. If each and every thing is finished for them, they by no ability make the relationship between strikes and effects. they have an recommendations-set that the international owes them something.
2016-11-26 01:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋