Im 15 years old, and 8 weeks pregnant, I just need a little advice.?

Question

No one else knows execpt me and my boyfriend, I dont wanna get a abortion, or give her up for adoption.
I just wanna know if any one else has been in this situation so young, and if you guys had any advice or could tell me what to expect in the rest of this pregnacy and as such a young parent it would be appreciated
*thanx!

oh and,
me and my boyfriend both have jobs, and neither 1 of us plan on quitting school
i know its gonna be hard, but dose any one have any better advice other than "tell your parents"???

Answer 1

You need to find an adult you can trust. It is hard enough to make it through pregnancy without someone who has been there before.

As hard as it was to tell my mom (at 19 mind you, not 15) I don't know if I would have been able to make it through without her. She helped me out so much.

You just have to remember that you made the choice to have sex. And you have made the choice to keep the baby (which will be hard for you, but you can do it. :) ) so you need to be adult enough to let your parent(s) know about it as well. And tell them now so that when the exciting part of the pregnancy comes they won't be as upset about the whole situation.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Hi Sweet, Congratulations!
I am 22 and 33wks pregnant with my first bub and even I have no idea what to expect, I have no idea what mistakes I will and wont make but really' I don't think anyone does untill they become a parent. Its sounds like you are taking the maturer approach already, staying in school and working. how old will you be when your bub is born? If you will be over 16 you are completely entitled to a pension so that can help too. I have quite a few friends that had bubs when they were you age and some of them are the best most responsible parents I know. Other aren't so good though. I think if this is really something you can completely and utterly commit your self to you can do it. Pls believe me when I say pregnancy its self is HARD! its puts major stress on your relationship so just be prepared. Read and learn as much as you possibly can and just over all commit your self to be the best and most loving mum you can be. Remember there is still heaps of time to party when bubs older. Good luck I really hope you work every thing out and if you do need any advice email me I happy to help, "I was pregnant too when I was 15 unfortunately i lost it, but I still had to go through telling my parents and going to Dr's and telling people at school so As i said I'm happy to help.

Answer 3

I too was pregnant at the age of 15. The best thing you can do right now is tell your parents. Even if it seems like a really hard thing to do, you have to do it. Whatever you do, do not quit school. I left after the end of my sohomore year and it was one of the biggest mistakes I made. Having a baby so young will be hard but the sooner you tell your parents, the better. They may be mad at first but it will be a big relief on you. I kept my baby and I wouldn't change it for the world. Looking back, if I could change anything about the whole thing, I would have stayed in school. For advice, I would say keep people close to you for support (you will need a strong support system), buy the book "What to expect the first year" (this was a big life saver for me), keep a positive attitude and love that baby no matter how hard things get (which they will) and STAY IN SCHOOL!!!!!!! Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

I am 20 years old and I have a 9 month old son. I was very happy to have him, but at the same time I have to sacrifice evrything to take care of him, he has to come first. Luckily I was already out of high school when I got pregnant. Therfore, I have a full-time job, an apartment, and I am going to college part-time. My hands are full!!

First, take with your parents, at this age if you don't tell them the doctors will because you are not old enough to make decisions on your own. Also, really think about his, you should finish school, the are not many jobs for high school drop outs and you will need a well paying job to afford a baby.

Children are a big responsibility, there's no more sleeping in on Saturdays, sometimes not even through the night. You wont be able to do all those fun school activities, you may even have to leave school early because your child is sick, which will cause you to fall behind in school. Even if you take a shower, they need to be within arms reach.

In all honest, you are 15, you don't like the same things at that age that you will when you turn 20, so who's to say your boyfriend will stick around?? Both of you are young and a baby puts major stress on a relationship. You still have plenty of time to decide. However please consider that you still have a long life ahead to have a baby, but right now just enjoy being a teenager and to have fun. Right now, is not a good time because you can never give them back.

If you decide to keep it, just don't give up on school!! It will be hard but you have to make yourself a better person to be able to teach your child right from wrong!

Think of it this way, if you really wanted to keep it wouldn't you have told your parents already? Please make a wise decision after talking to your parents. Best of luck!!

Answer 5

You only 'think' that you want to have this child but you will regret it soon enough. You absolutely, most definitely do not want to have this child at this time in your life. You are far too young to be a responsible parent, for that matter you are far to young to be a responsible care giver. The very fact that you are pregnant at such a young age proves what I am saying to be correct. You and your boyfriend are both aware of the birthcontrol methods that are available. Speak to your parents and do it as quickly as possible. Today is a good time. Have an abortion if your parents do not want to take it as thier own. I have known far too many girls that have given their babies up for adoption and then spent their lives searching the playing areas and parks to see if they can recognize a child that might be theirs. Stay in school, get yourself a proper education and later when the time is right and you can afford to look after a little one the story will be different. At this time your only option will be to go on welfare and that is not a choice a person should willingly make. Right now you and your boyfriend believe yourselves to be in love, but love can disappear very quickly (at any age) and you will find yourself alone with a child. Speak to your parents and think long and hard on this and if you are going to 'mess around' then make sure you are using birth control. I understand that they now have an implant that serves that purpose. I am of the very strong opinion that the pharmaceutical companies should make an implant available for males also. Right now you are probably making the mistake of imagining the fetus as looking like a pretty little fully developed baby. It is not. At 8 weeks it isn't even fully formed. If you haven't told anyone then what makes you think it is a girl? I doubt very much that you have had any medical scans done and it doubtful that at this stage they would be correct. Tell your parents, now.

Answer 6

Do yourself the favor and tell your parents . They will find out anyway . Your so young and its hard on an adult to raise a kid . I don't want to hurt your feelings but the boyfriend will most likely be out of your life . You haven't lived life yet and you going to raise a life . The boyfriend who most likely be gone some time in the future may not be able to care for the kid . Do to the fact he is a kid . You will have to go to night school and your friends wont be there all the time because there kids and will want to do what kids do and you cant . Your parents will most likely be parents again , not grand parents to take care of you and your future . Best bet is to ether aboard if you believe in free choice or put the baby up for adoption . There are grown people by the thousands who cant have a kid and will give the baby a good home . Please stay a kid as long as you can . I know you hate being called a kid and and think this being a kid stinks and you want to grow up fast and have people treat you like an adult . So show them now you are acting like one .

Answer 7

My best advice to you is to know that you can do it. My sister had her first baby at 15 and I am constantly amazed at how resourceful she is, and how she has been able to do so much with very little. I don't know the situation with your parents, but if you cant get any support from them, try to find someone who can help support you through the pregnancy and first few years. One think family or close friends are great for is reliable (and ofen free or cheap) day care while you are at school and/or work. And kudos on staying in school. It definatly can be done! Get prenatal care, if you havn't already. You can do this through a planned parent hood group or free clinic. Also get the book "what to expect when you are expecting" to help with a heads up for the months to come. Congrats on the new baby on the way! I'm sure you will be wonderful parents and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

Answer 8

I need you to answer some serious questions, how serious are you and the future farther? Do you fill he will be in your life for years to come? If not, do you fill you are able to take on the responsiblity of a child, do you have other support systems, (parents, family)?

I'm 23 years old and became pregnant at a very young age, my decision for my future child and myself was a decision I made with my boyfried at the time (he is now my husband). We decided that it was not fair for the baby to be brought into a world which was not ready for "it" to be brought into. Does this make sense?

Making the decision if you should keep the baby is a life long decision regardless of the decision you decided on, but it should be your decision... you need to do what is best for you and your baby, not what your boyfriend, parents or any others tell you to do. If you were old enough to have sex you should be old enough to make a wise decision. Being pregnant at such a young age is scary, but if you have a strong mind set and are determined to do the right thing you will only grow stronger and smarter with this difficult time in your life.

I hope this helps, and good luck!

Answer 9

I was 16 when I got pregnant, and from exprience it is going to hard on you and your boyfriend. Telling your parents is going to be the hardest part of the whole thing. My parents were very disappointed in me. But all in all they stood by me when I told them I was having my son. Life as you know it is going to change so much. Find a good support group or somebody else who has been through this and you can trust to talk to.
Having a job is good for now but soon enough you won't have that job. Many things can happen so start saving and putting back money. You will need all you can get. Babies are not cheap by any means.
If you have a local Health Office go talk to them about getting on WIC it is wonderful and they help you and the baby stay healthy. Also they can help you with Medicaid if you don't have insurance or your parents won't cover you having a baby. Good luck and my GOD watch over you and your baby.

Answer 10

I was 21 when I became pregnant and even though I'm an adult I still felt that people looked at me and my husband as if we were too young to have a baby. I was a little self conscience throughout my pregnancy and I would tell other young women to not let people get to you. You are already pregnant so there is nothing anyone can say to make that go away and you should to ask other people to be positive about the situation when they are around you.

Enjoy your pregnancy no matter what. I feel a little like I wasn't allowed to be happy that I was pregnant because it wasn't planned. I still regret not flaunting it, this is the most special time of your life!

Make sure you keep up with doctors appointments and stay in school, getting an education for yourself is the best thing you can do for your baby. I was in the middle of my Jr year of college when I found out I was preggo, and this summer I will be graduating! It wasn't easy, but it was totally do-able.

Also, I'm sure your nervous about telling you parents, but don't be. They are going to be your biggest help through this and I know when I told my parents they were so excited to be grandparents. Something you'll find out when you have your baby is that no matter what your child does you will always love them no matter what, so keep that in mind when you talk to your parents and your boyfriends parents.

Raising children is not easy, and having them young makes it worse, but its so worth it. Keep your chin up and don't forget to ask for help!

Answer 11

Ok well the first thing is to talk to your parents. Then talk to your boyfriends parents. And between the 6 of you then some decisions can be made.
Having a baby at 15 is VERY difficult. Not so much the having it but the taking care of it. Most girls your age give the child up for adoption. Or thier parents end up raising the child until the girl is an age where she can do it herself.
So if you want to keep the baby forget about being a teenager any more -its time to completely grow up. When you engaged in adult sexual activity you made that choice now you have to live with it. Its not easy at all its really really hard. But if you choose to grow up now and raise the child I wish you all good luck.