i meet him at a club he's a friend of a friend and we hit it off. and the same night we hooked up. im the first guy he's messed around with. and he's not ready for anyone to know. so whenever we hang out its always in the back seat of a car and its just for sex. i want to let him know that im starting to get feelings for him but i dont know if i should. i want something more serious but i dont know if he does. what should i do?
2007-05-22 05:20:52 · 11 answers · asked by envy_rc 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He may not be completely comfortable with his sexuality yet. Give him some time. If you push him too hard (no puns intended) then you could lose him completely.
Maybe try to move the sex out of the backseat of the car and into a bedroom or someplace a bit more private (and with more room). You can get a bit more physical that way.
Good luck and have fun.
2007-05-22 05:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're prepared for whatever the response, go for it. Tell him how you feel - without pressuring him - and see what he says. But only if you're prepared for the worst possible outcome. What if he says, "No, I can't handle that; I don't want to see you anymore at all." If you can take that, then you have nothing lose. But he may say, "What the heck, let's give it a try."
You have to be willing to accept the outcome, whatever it is. If you don't think you can, if you would be traumatized by his rejection, then maybe you should work on finding someone else and either letting this guy go, or just enjoy the sex and be satisfied with that. Good luck !
2007-05-22 10:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be the one to say this, but you have already defined the relationship--- so it's always just going to be sex.
Also--- remember comming out? it's not a relationship time. It's a kid-in-a-candy store time.
Maybe tell him you want to stop seeing him for sex, that you might have feelings for him, and would love to build a friendship with him.
2007-05-22 05:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he sounds like hes not ready for anything more than "sex" but i think u need to talk but if u do sex may just stop and u both feel awkard aroud eachother after the "talk" so yup go wid the flow make him fall for u give him signs best way to do it
2007-05-22 05:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not mature enough (in his sexuality or as a person) to be in a relationship, he really shouldn't be having casual sex, either. Stop screwing him. It's the best advice I can think of.
2007-05-22 06:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by prodigy2725 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like nycguy10002 said. I think that is the best thing you could do. Feel him out, (not necessarily up) And above all be honest.
2007-05-22 05:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be real...tell him how you feel. Maybe he wants more from you than just sex too. You'll never know until you tell him how you really feel.
2007-05-26 00:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by flash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. If he is not ready for anything serious right now, are you willing to wait till he is?
2007-05-22 05:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run quickly, the other way. Let him sort his own issues. There's plenty of guys who know who they are and what they want.
2007-05-22 06:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him know
2007-05-22 06:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by kanei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋