I was full term and he died with no explanation...It has almost been 8 months since he was born...I miss him so...
2007-05-22 05:14:04 · 8 answers · asked by sara s 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I got pregnant with him after having had my tubes tied and was not planning on anymore kids. I have 2 and had lost 4 before this is why I had my tubes tied...didn't want to chance losing more...then this...whammo 1 week from my c-section...It's so confusing as to why a baby so meant to be here that he defeated all odds of conception dies so unexplainably in the end...
2007-05-22 05:34:09 · update #1
Just because he was stillborn doesn't mean you didn't know him and love him. You are grieving. Just like you would grieve for a parent or friend you are grieving for him. The pain and ache of losing a child doesn't ever go away, it just fades into the background. No matter how long ago a mother died, you would still feel sad on mother's day, it is the same with a baby (maybe even worse). It is okay to be miserable, it is okay to cry, it is okay to grieve. If he could talk, he would tell you he wouldn't want you to stop living because he couldn't be with you, so don't stop. Try to go on, there are support groups of other parents who have lost babies and they can really be helpful. Don't try to make yourself forget, or think that there is something wrong with missing him. I wish you all the best, I'm so sorry.
2007-05-22 05:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I, too, went through the loss of a baby and there isn't anything that I found that will take the pain away. You will probably go through the various stages of grieving, just as you would with the loss of any friend or family member. It just so happens that this loss is the worst for you. Not only do you have to feel the loss of the baby you've been carrying for so long, but you also are going through the after effects of birth, such as post-partum depression. Personally, I found that getting pregnant again was the best way to cope with the loss of my baby. Talking about what happened helped me and having friends and family around was comforting. So sorry about your loss.
2007-05-22 05:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kristi P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh of course u do honey and i now it feels horriable because u so much wanted this baby evnetully the pain will stop and u'll be able to deal with it but u will never forget those 9 months he spents in u tummy probly when u have a another baby it will help ease the pain but not completey here's wat i would make a little memor plaque in remenbercne of him and don't worry it will takeas long as it takes 8 months is to early to get over the pain usally it takes a couple years to get over a lost loved one espically if you had them in ur tummy and felt them move.
2007-05-22 05:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aw im really sorry to hear about this. I know this is something really hard to get over but it will take time since this was someone you carried for 9 months. Just try to play some board games, watch movies, go out for a massage/spa pedicure and just relax. You probably won't be able to forget about this but just do things to get your mind off of it. I hope everything will work out fine for you. take care
2007-05-22 06:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this but you will never stop aching to hold him and see him. As time goes on it will be easier to talk about and think about. I miscarried and still think about my baby even thought i never got to meet her. It has been two years already. I promise that it does get easier and you will have another child that you will love just as much. Right now all you can do is spend time with family.
2007-05-22 05:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by momma d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine. You might try joining a support group for parents who have lost a child in birth, or seek counseling. Only time can heal a wound. Best wishes to you.
2007-05-22 05:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by bulgarella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh iam sorry-i can't imagine! It will take some time to recover from this and make sure you give ur self all the time you need
2007-05-22 05:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by brisbeachmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋