Then after the movie, I opened many of my family secrets and had a long drive and talk. After which he started again and we landed up doing a lot of it. The next day we decided and did things we never did before and for some reason were happy and cried just once. He left and dint call back. His girlfriend knew we went for shopping together and was angry and he was trying to get her to speak again. I felt bad, angry, guilty, depressed. I know he loves me yet, after doing things he left me all alone. I did call him, but I feel bad when i do. HELP ME!!! cant forget, nor i be with him. I hate him for leaving me alsone and i hate myself for getting into it. but yet hte days with him were a boon. I wanna involve further, but i am scared of the consequences. i know he is the same state. Ahhhhhh!
2007-05-22 05:12:23 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not gonna say your wrong because your feelings are never wrong. But just weight the outcome, do you wanna be with him hurt the girlfriend or try to control your feelings while you try and sort things out with him. What ever you chose I hope you are happy with the choice you make. And of course him to since he is part of the situation.
2007-05-22 05:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by nelle boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must feel so frustrated. its hard to be in love with someone who is not completely yours. He does seem to love you very much, but i think what he might be feeling is confusion. he might love his gf in a sweet caring way like the way you love your mom, but he feels a stronger passionate love for you. if you can make him understand how you feel and how its affecting you it might turn out good for you. let him that you feel so upset and frustated. but use the "i feel" sentences. never point the finger at him! make him see on his own who he couldnt live without. just say it matter-of-factly like its no big deal. he'll probably say its not fair that your making him choose. when he starts that, say," look im sorry its so diffucult for you, but maybe if i had a boyfriend and you on the side you'd understand. just think of it like that. how would YOU feel? look, i would be lying if i said that i dont hope you pick me, because i do. but i would also be lying if i said i wanna stay with you like this with your GF on the side. im miserable and sometimes i feel like id rather be dead than live this life. you can either make me the happiest girl in the world by picking me or you can let someone else make me the happiest girl. i know hes out there, but id rather it be you. i love you (his name). bye... "
then get up and go. yes it'll be deppressing waiting for his call and wondering if its the end, but hang in there. look hot above all. very hot. and do not give in.
and remember if it doesnt work out in your favor, at least you'll have learned something: next time you find a good guy make sure hes girlfriend-less. you deserve to have someone for you and just for you.
but hang in there and e-mail me if you have any other questions.
2007-05-22 12:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Love101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is sincere about how he feels for you he will break up with his girlfriend --- its difficult and he should never have got you into this situation --- if he is not sincere then there is no future im sorry if you keep seeing him you will be just an amusement before he goes back to his girlfriend ---- best wishes
2007-05-22 12:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should wait and see what happens between him and his girlfriend. Be supportive of there relationship, but let him know you are there for him. Good luck
2007-05-22 12:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by kidjaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋