I am not a loner, by any means, but I do prefer to talk/associate/communicate with people on a one to one basis, because I find that a large majority of people like to show their as#$es when in a group setting - - -WHY?
Having fun is one thing, but ganging up on a person, I don't care who it is, is just ignorant
2007-05-22 04:39:32 · 8 answers · asked by tinabadina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am totally with you, people want to fit in, and they will do anything to fit in. Sometimes like act like morons.
2007-05-22 04:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by fjerseyman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dynamics of a relationship/friendship seem to change when there's more than 2 people around. It does always seem that when there's 3 people, 2 kind of "gang up" on the other, whether intentional or not. I think it's everyone's way of acting because they don't want to be the "odd man out". You know how they say 3's a crowd? I feel the same way you do when it comes to talking and relating to others. I prefer one-on-one. I think this is because I'm very shy and easily intimidated by others. Unless I know them well. I'm very quite and I hate speaking in front of groups of people. I get nervous. The only time I notice the exception to this, in my case, anyway, is when I'm drinking. I'm pretty friendly and open and can chat forever with group of people. PRobably because my inhibitions go away and I don't feel quite so shy. I agree with you, though, that ganging up on someone in a rude, childish way is ignorant. And mean.
2007-05-22 11:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In group settings there will always be those people who act foolish to draw the attention away from themselves. It is a defense mechanism. When that happens I tend to find another group of people to talk to at parties. Of if this occurs at a dinner or small group setting I converse with one or two people who I know aren't fools.
2007-05-22 11:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is just bcoz its a basic human tendency that people want acceptance from their peer group, for this they may even do or give in to things which they won't want to do when they are alone or when they r just with a single person.
i also prefer to talk or communicate on a one to one basis but i don't change my attitude towards others when i m in a group. basically its up to u how u see things and whether u r ready to face rejection when u do not give in to the demands of talking,communicating and behaving with people in ur own way when u r with ur group.
2007-05-30 08:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by heavendropout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always try and show people up to make themselves look better, I was never one of them. I never let people talk s%&*t about other people. I just told them if they didn't like them so much why couldn't they sat it to that persons face. That usually ended the conversation.
2007-05-29 19:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the context...usually u can tell who are your true friends by those who treat u the same in both situations...
PS: I've experienced this before, it's nothing to worry about...
2007-05-22 11:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I am in a group setting, its usuall a gang and i am wearing a mask. then they take it off and everybody runs...
2007-05-22 16:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its the way ppl are. they have to show off to there buddies.
2007-05-22 11:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋