Should I tell her I know?

Question

I was sitting with friends the other night by the camp fire in the woods and Me and my girlfriend went behind the bushes to make love in the great outdoors. afterwards I wandered off to find more firewood. Unknowing to Me at the time a lady friend of mine a person I might add that I would never sleep with seduced my girlfriend and they made love. I seen it going on however neither of them seen me. My girlfriend is the same as always. should I tell her I know or keep my mouth shut?

Answer 1

Tell her!! If she will sleep with another woman that easy then she probably slept with another man too!! You need to talk with her and see why in the hell she would do that to you right after y'all had sex.

Answer 2

You need to approach the situation delicately. Be grown up about it. When you're talking (not argueing), simply state you were looking for firewood the other night and witnessed something that surprised you. Ask her if she would like to talk about it and that you would like help understanding what you saw. It's possible you may have missed something from that exchange, given you must have been a distance away to prevent being noticed.

You need to know if your g/f is going to engage in sexual activity with others because it may pose a health risk in terms of increasing the risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease. Ask her if it's her intent to be exclusive with you in that dept. or if it's something she enjoyed and wishes to explore further.

Two consenting adult women "getting along" a little better than some petty hetero female types do with one another can be an interesting experience a man simply cannot supply.

Of course, you deserve honesty if honesty is what you put forth in your relationship. Very Best!

Answer 3

Look at it this way..... By NOT telling her that you know...Isnt this a form of permission to keep doing it? If you are REALLY interested in this girl, then absolutely let her know what you have seen. Find out if she is truely BI or if it was just a one time thing. If she is BI and your in it for love, then run away. If you are in it for "fun", then ask her to involve her friend in your alone time. (Most guys would kill for this chance) WARNING Nothing good and longstanding has ever developed from this type of relationship from what I have seen. So dont confuse love with sex.

Answer 4

If you have to ask this question, then you have a little bit of doubt about something. You need to figure out if you are cool with the idea of her sleeping with women. If you are cool with it then tell her that you are cool with with the whole idea and let her know what you saw. If you are not comfortable with her sleeping with other women you need to tell her and give her a chance to explain why she did not tell you before.

Answer 5

I guess that depends on how you feel about it and how that might affect your relationship.....

I think you need to work out what you expect will happen from telling her and what you want to say. How do you see what happened?....How does what happened affect the way you feel about her and your relationship?

You need to do what you think is right for you, what you know you can live with.


Chi Chi x.

Answer 6

I would think that is something that needs to be discussed... If she is secretly having sex with one person then how many others might there be?

Also, I'd suggest getting tested for STDs...

Answer 7

Tell her that you know. If you are not mad about it let her know that too. That is something you two should discuss since you are in a relationship.

Answer 8

wait she had sex with a chick???? woah dude.. tell her u know.. bcoz then if u guys argue or sumthing u will bust out and that's never good.. sit down have a nice convo..

Answer 9

so ur gfs a bi??...

well try sayin something around that line to c if she wud actually tell u the truth....if not then u mite as well jus let her know that u kno....

Answer 10

Tell her! Cheating is cheating! How can you still be with this girl??