What should I do I lost a baby at birth?

Question

MY BABY WAS A STILLBORN AND I WENT ONE DAY OVER DUE MY DUE DATE AND I DIDN'T FEEL MY BABY MOVE INSIDE OF ME AND WENT TO THE DOCTOR'S AND HE DID AN ULTRA SOUND AND MY BABY WAS GONE AND STILL HAD TO DELIVER MY PRECIOUS DAUGHTER SHE WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN SHE WILL BE ALWAYS IN MY HEART AND MY PRAYERS I ALSO VISIT HER AT HER GRAVE SIGHT EVEN THOUGH IT IS HARD MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT HAVING ANOTHER CHILD AND IS IT OKAY TO TRY AGAIN NO ONE HAS ANSWER FOR ME IF IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN THIS IS WHY I AM SO AFRAID TO HAVE ANOTHER I WANT TO

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine what kind of pain you must feel. I think this is a question only your doctor can answer. Being able to carry your baby full term is a good sign, they will probably just want to keep a closer eye on you the next time. I wish you all the luck in the world and my heart goes out to you and your husband.

Answer 2

Of course you're frightened it will happen again. That's normal after going through such a traumatic experience. It doesn't sound like this happened very long ago either. Give it time until you really feel that you're ready to move past your daughter's death and have another child. You need enough time to grieve just as you would if you lost an adult relative or older child.

Keep talking to your husband. Communicating with each other will make sure you don't drift apart into your individual thoughts and feelings to the point that you no longer know what the other is feeling or where they're at.

You might find it helps to get counselling, both individually for each of you and as a couple. But the most important things are to keep talking and not to rush into another pregnancy.

Lots of luck with your future pregnancies and sympathies for your loss.

Answer 3

First of all, you'll be in my prayers.
Life is such a precious gift and though one is lost, it doesn't mean you can't try again. Nothing can replace your daughter but have children, it is God's plan. As your children grow, if you choose, you can tell them stories about the pregnancy and let them know that there is another sibling but she is an angel now. Just because you had one stillborn baby does not mean you will have another. My grandmother had 4 beautiful daughters and a stillborn boy. I would try again, maybe ask your doctor if there is something different you could do or schedule extra appointments to make you feel comfortable. I'd try again and of course if you and your husband decide to have another, don't let anything stop you. Good luck & God Bless :)

Answer 4

I am so so so so sorry for your loss. This must be one of the most difficult things that could happen to a woman. You DO deserve to try again for another baby if you want...and I'm sure in time you will. You may need to heal for now, though. Of course you'll never forget your first daughter, and you'll never "replace" her with another baby, but there is no reson not to give her a little brother or sister and continue your life, if you are emotionally ready (as much as you can be). This kind of thing is very rare, and I understand you would be nervous again during the next pregnancy, but the chances of such a thing happenieng to you again are very low. I suggest talking about the risks with your doctor...and then when the time is right for you, have another baby.

Answer 5

I am sorry totally sorry this has happened to you, my Sis in law gave birth to her stillborn daughter last year and one they did was a autopsy to see what was wrong with the baby and to determine if they could find the actual cause of why this happened and see if there was a chance this could happen again - She has also gone to have another baby and everything went according to plan hope you get some much deserved answers soon .......

Answer 6

You could start trying again when you and your husband are both ready, physically and emotionally. Make sure that you aren't having another baby to try to replace the one you lost. If you have that thought in the back of your mind, it makes it very hrad on not only for you, but for your child too. It doesn't sound like you feel this way, but I don't know you and can't see inside your brain. If you truly want to try for another to have a child to love, then go ahead and try again. Good luck!

Answer 7

I am so sorry for you loss. I can't imagine this and I don't have any words to make you feel any better but I can let you know that you and your husband are in my prayers. This actually happened to one of my friends. If it will happen again is not really known. It kind of depends on what happenend. Was the cord wrapped around her or something? That is what happenend to my friend. If it was something like that - then it is probably not likely to happen again. I think if you feel like you are ready to try again by all means do. I really can't express enough how sorry I am for you. I wish you all the best hun.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your loss.....Keep in mind God never gives us more than we can endure.......
Well did your Dr. advise you to what the cause may have been for it to be a still born. I definitely think you should try again, I do think you should give your body and mind some time to heal first. Some Dr.s say you can try again in 3 months some say 6 in my opinion if you went full term with this last pregnancy your body needs a longer amount of time to heal properly. Get healthy in and out first before you focus on getting pregnant again. Did you have any problems in this pregnancy, if so maybe get checked out to find out if it will be an issue in your next one.

Good luck to you and this pain shall pass with the strength of God by your side

Answer 9

I am so sorry for your loss, and yes, its ok to try again when you feel ready. You did nothing wrong, this just happens sometimes, and it sucks. When you feel like its time to try again, you will probably be scared about it happening again, but it won't. Try to find a support group for pregnancy after a loss, you will get alot of love, support and you will be encouraged by the success storiesof other mothers. Your baby will aways be your child, and you will always love her. Anotehr baby is just one way of expressing that love!! Good luck!

Answer 10

1st of all, im so very sorry for your loss, what was the reason you lost the baby, that could be a factor, have you tried talking to your ob/ gyn? only god knows if it will happen again but your doctor should at least be able to tell you why it happened and help guide you as far as the chances of it happening again