if youve been through alot in life is it understandable that you would be jealous and angry at somebody elses?

Question

happiness and somebody elses life, when yours hasnt turned out like that or like theirs?
to be enraged at somebody elses grins and smiles.
im 29 and am a bpd sufferer, never had a job or had a girlfriend and all i see is everyone around me on the tv, tv gameshows, audiances, people on the internet on networking sites, there all grinning, smiling and laughing enjoying life.
when im lonely, live alone and suffer with bpd..
im a person with hopes, dreams and ambitions like everyone else. one of them, working and to emigrate from england, to find a partner...
i get terrible low moods about alll this, everyday, my moods fluctuate every hour of everyday, from severley depressed and down to feeling ok again.im waiting for therapy

Answer 1

I can relate to many things you said. First of all I am disabled at 33 yrs old and live in chronic pain 24/7. I also suffer from depression and anxiety because of it. I never feel good, am barely making it financially and never see many of my friends because I never feel good. I also grew up with a bipolar mom and brother so understand your mood swings and how hard it is living with bpd. I do sometimes get jealous of other peoples lives. Especially when people who are healthy and living good complain about stupid things. They have no idea what people like you and I live with everyday. I hope you will get some help...I know once my mom and brother got on the right medications and got into therapy, they balanced out a lot and felt a lot better. There is hope. Never give up and always remember that there are others out there going through tough times just like you are. You never know what people are hiding behind their smiles.

Answer 2

NO - Jealousy and Anger are negative, only a negative person reacts to normal people in those ways.

When you are low this focuses your attention on the relative levels of happiness of those you see but you see a distorted section of them, what you see is not enough to be able to compare it to your situation, if you sit down and talk about "life the universe and everything" with a close friend you will see the low points that you feel are a part of everyone's life, your higher intelligence is just forcing you to take a more extreme standpoint on being low!

do not be overcome by the sum of human happiness - smile you're smiling laugh you're laughing it's transitory (as is your low mood!)


stop all refernce to BPD everyone has BPD to some degree because everyone can swing thier moods like bastards if they want. Everyone has SAD because everyone loves summer and is lower in winter. The empty term BPD is a monkey for your back and it's making such a noise you can't hear yourself think.

The higher your intelligence the more likely you will be classed as BPD. don't take a quality and make it a liability! JUST STOP!

you then need a plan of action and since you have done your low period in an extreme fashion you'll need to ween yourself off being low

Apply for a job this week, just one, DO IT assume you will not get it so you don't go lower, after you don't get it phone up and ask why - listen to their answers, take the tips, and apply for one job next week too, repeat this until you start to see why you aren't getting jobs hopefully this will come quite quickly and then you can start working on your real problems without getting confused and blaming a mystical 'pie in the sky' called BPD.

DO not lose faith!!!! Searching for jobs IS harrowing because you learn some of your failings, but you are given the opportuntiy to grow as a person and as a prospective employee at the same time.

once you have a job, you'll be able to be pissed off with that like everyone else hates their job but at least it'll have some positive effect on your life a) you'll no longer think of yourself as unemployable and b) you'll have more money!

when you've got a job! it'll be easier to get a better one, ( this also works for women too ) .

laugh smile and be well Dude.
Buff.

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Answer 3

Life is all about how you see things n ur perspective..
Its all in the mind when u think u can be happy no matter what u will not let small things get to u that s when u will see how beautiful life is! Happiness can be found everywhere if u chose to look at things in a positive light!

Life is a roller coaster it has got its ups n downs sometimes the downs are handpicked but only to help us be stronger because if we never had any problems then we would never undersatns what it is like to be happy..

Its easier said than done but atleast give it a shot be optimistic that will help u a lot...n make prayers an integral part of ur life u 'll see the difference!

Answer 4

I think that yes it would be perfectly fair to be jealous and enraged by someones happiness and success. So long as you dont take out these feelings on these people it doesnt matter how you feel about a person.Each to their own n all! I know the feeling of your life is wasting away while all the people you know are having a great time of things but due to recent events I can clearly see that even bad, terribly bad things happen to people with good lives

Answer 5

sure! I hate those stupid grins. I desire i will lead them to go through and experience discomfort the way I did, then see how wel they shield countless discomfort and frustration themselves... How do you no longer experience or think of those issues? Why do you ask this? i think of its Its organic to take action.. Its only that different poeple around you assert you shouldnt think of/communicate that way, yet they can't supply you any darn solid rationalization or some solid suggestion wich realy works or facilitates you. So the only reality then my fellow einstein is that, each and every thing they say might've been only plein BS... So end listening to them might advise your onto a sparkling direction A direction that perhaps WILL lead you to truths that DOES enable you. Cus that different direction only misled you and saved you at nighttime. you go with another style of drugs. For some its rather vengeance, for others its scientific care with out violance. Its completely as much as you. yet in persuit of what works for you, on no account misinform your self. as quickly as you already know why I suggested that, you be a extra advantageous guy. 1st step is to no longer pay attention to others speaking approximately you cuz frequently. countless the flaws they say wont artwork. Why? through fact it only doesnt. It on no account had. So it on no account will. you on no account knew why yet now you already know. and perhaps you mostly kinda knew yet on no account easily stood nevertheless and had a seem at what you have been doing. Its A+ .. = C A is your frustration. .. is unknown wich is your answer. C, easily isn't you speaking, yet others. and you on no account knew precisely why the suggested the flaws they suggested. for this reason you are able to on no account understand what ".." ought to be, wich is your answer.

Answer 6

May I suggest spiritual enlightenment?

Answer 7

help poor people, not everyone has a gameshow-like life.

Answer 8

you should be checked for bi-polar