so i cut some people from my life because i thought they were unhealthy to be around. i came back around and started to be friends because they appeared to have changed and i have this new resolution of accepting people for how they are. but they never change. i cant accept their self destructive behavior because it affects me. and im being brought down. i have to baby them and they are selfish....ugh anyonw else been through this?
2007-05-21 20:14:00 · 5 answers · asked by nonphysical 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you're not comfortable there. Find a place you can be at ease. Its clear they would rather their life style, than to tone it down for you.
You don't have to be accepting of the way other people live. You are responsible for looking out for yourself, and whats best for you.
2007-05-21 20:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends about how close they are in your life. If they are not that much close you can very well cut them out. But if they are very close and if you really care for them then it is a different story.
You talk to them and give them the confidence that is necessary and that is possible and definitely you can help them out.
Instead if you cut them out they will continue in the same way thinking that they are right and everyone will feel the same about them. And one day if you see them down in their life you will definitely feel for it. It will any way affect you.
So better help them out of their problem. When people pretty close around you have problem then it is your problem. So please take care of them and simply dont take the dumb decision to cut them out.
Its just a suggestion and the rest is how you take it.
Cheers!!!!!
2007-05-22 03:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ashidh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had to get away from some people who were bad influences and had started to drag me down with them. I, however, have stayed away from them, even though I really liked their personalities, it was the stuff they were doing that was bad. If these people are dragging you down and draining your energy, they aren't good friends to be hanging out with. You can accept them as they are but not be in the middle of them. Take care of yourself and find some people who have a positive affect on your life and mood....you will be much happier.
2007-05-22 09:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fair to give everyone a second chance as we all make a mistake now and then. But the issue is we must learn by it and alter our ways else we can expect severe consequences.
2007-05-22 03:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that.
trust me on this one - cut them out of your life....as quick as possible.
2007-05-22 03:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by madd hatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋