My ex-sis-in law and I became best friends about two years ago. Then I notice that she had being taking my personal belongings, such as clothes, make up, arts'& craft items the list goes on. I don't want her over my house and I do not want to hang out with her no more. She has ripped me off long enough and I do not want to be her friend. How do I tell her why I don't enjoy her company anymore?
2007-05-21 18:12:39 · 12 answers · asked by maria r 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just come out and say it. Next time she wants to hang out, ask her to meet you at a coffeeshop or something so you can talk. Tell her you love her personality and you enjoyed her friendship, but you noticed that she has a habit of "borrowing things" without asking. Tell her you want to be able to trust your friends, and that you don't feel it's possible right now to trust her, so you think it's best that you not see each other for awhile.
She might be a kleptomaniac, or she might have some other valid reason for stealing from you. I doubt it, but give her a chance to explain before condemning her.
2007-05-21 18:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him another chnace, but be cautious. Does he want more than friendship? Is he sorry for what he said. I would ask him, why did you say you didnt want to be my friend before, and then come back? I know you have lost your trust in him, like will he do iy again, but it also depends on how close you two were before.Is he worth letting back into your life. If he was a kool mate before,, and you didnt have problems, then prehaps give him the benefit of the doubt, and say all good, we had a problem in the past now lets move on and make a fresh start. Good luck, and have a great xmas and new years!
2016-04-01 01:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Write her a letter and confront her with all the things you feel she has done. Explain to her that your standards for friendship does not include what you are charging her of doing and that you do not wish the friendship to continue in its current state.
Let her decide if she wants to mend her ways. But make it clear that she needs to chose but until then you would prefer that she kindly stay away.
Honesty is always the best policy
2007-05-21 18:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easier way to say that. I think it's better if you write her a letter saying...you've lost some valuables like you said and until it is found and known the perpetrator, it is better for her to not go over in to your house for a while. and say...please understand me. you really want to talk about this in person but you decided to do it in writings to avoid too much complications.
you'll get rid of her without to much mess. do not point her out directly on letter to avoid legal battle, of course you do not have any proof of that. and your only aim is to get rid of her permanently, unless you like arguments.
2007-05-21 18:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Wax777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is never easy to do but sometimes it is necessary for your mental and emotional well-being. Depending on how sensitive this woman is, break it to her somewhat gently, but be firm and truthful. If she asks why, give her some legitimate reasons, but try not to be accusatory or rude. Good luck.
2007-05-21 18:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by CKS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to handle a situation like this would be to just tell her the truth and don't beat around the bush and the one thing to remember in any situation like this is just be real and honest even if you know it might hurt someones feelings
2007-05-21 18:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by jsmispris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you need you space and time to think for a while if she askes why just say other reasons
good luck
2007-05-21 18:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lindastar14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her!! Tell her that you are tired of her taking your things. Ask her how she would feel if you did that to her. Tell her that if she wants to see you, she will have to meet you somewhere besides your home.
2007-05-21 18:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her straight out. hey you, quit stealing my crap! and i don't wanna be friends with you because you are a clepto and a biotch. Tell her where to go, and then slap her in the face! And tell her you want all your crap back. and tell her to shove it up her butt.
2007-05-21 18:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Green Grass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that you dont mean any harm but you are going to have to pull away from her because you dont think she respects you because she steals from you. then ignore her calls!!
2007-05-21 18:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋