I'm a 57 yrs. old woman who's been married for 36 years now mother of 4 children.
3 girls and a boy. I must say I'm very proud of my son who seems to know how to treat a woman, because his wife is the happiest person you'll ever meet I ask whats her secret
she says( I Love her for this) " A WONDERFUL HUSBAND"! These 2 are into each other in a way I've never seen before!
My son 18 at time got married to a woman who I thought to old for him 5 1/2 years older, divorced twice, one OPEN, other marriage SWUNG! She admits freely and tell everyone NOT TO EVEN ENTERTAIN the thought because it will come back to haunt you!
12 yrs. later son and his wife are still married and happier then ever, She's an MD, in physical rehabilitation medicine(3 specialtys) witch also includes Psychiatry.
He's Has 2 PH.D One in applied physics mathematics, other applied engineering concepts. Both NAVY Reserves, both gone to IRAQ 3 times, SON gone to Afghanistan.
Both supports each others dreams!
2007-05-21 17:46:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Both successful and find one another stimulating to be with!
They talk about world politics, views on global warming, public service, EDUCATION!
Wished I had that!
They have a beautiful home in PACIFICA outside S.F. and volunteer. Daughter inlaw helps out with woman's shelter, make sure Woman get checked up as well as children and helps them get suitable housing!
My son Volunteers his time helping disabled student at a special needs school!
He's started classes to get teaching certificate because he's FALLIN IN LOVE with teaching so much, and wants to teach disabled studance for living!
His wife not only supports him but encourages him to do it!
He MAKE better then 400K a year doing freelance work for corporations, wants to give it all up for a job that pay 40k a year does that make scenes to you?
Their marriage is so strong my daughters all have either separated from their husbands or divorced. Saying they deserve a marriage & husband like their bother!
What I miss?
2007-05-21 17:46:12 · update #1
I'll admit I'm JEALOUS as HELL and if I was 20 yrs. younger I'd be getting a divorce myself, because son's A PURFET HUSBAND!
He writes letters once a week & mails them to wife, can you believe that?
Says " HE GOT BETTER THEN DESERVES, WHAT A GIFT HE GOT IN WIFE"( GOD I want that) she loves it!
He graduated high school at 15 had also an AA degree in general education, would continue his education at Cal POL, then STANFORD!
He's always takin at least one chef class 15 yrs. and this past NOVEMBER got Certificated as a LIGHT MASTER! So he does all the cooking at his home, He's also got message therapy Licenses in 6 different styles over yrs. give his wife a message( luck girl) at least once a week!
This past Christmas my son gave his wife a student ID card he enrolled to learn manicures&pedicure,every Saturday took her with him to class! her hands & toes are the best looking ones around now!
I'm thinking I got ROBBED because I never got that from husband, NEVER!
2007-05-21 17:46:30 · update #2
I know I should feel happy for him and her but I'm really feel robed, and want to know why?
Thank you for your help in advance!
2007-05-21 17:47:34 · update #3
An you also answer why my son want to be a teacher and reduce hi income to 1/10 of what he makes now, and why his wife willing to support that with a smile!
2007-05-21 17:50:54 · update #4
You feel robbed, as many of us would, because you raised a nearly perfect man. But don't compare your son to your husband, our children are always supposed to achieve more than we do, and make us insanely proud. This is the stuff every mother in the world wants to be able to brag about. Your husband is right for you, your son is right for your daughter-in-law.
We always tell people to work their dream job, never work for money. That's what he's doing. Another amazing thing to make you proud. You are one lucky mom! Lucky, lucky.
Jealousy starts in childhood. Some of us learn to let it go, some of us find that harder. See a counselor for assistance. It feels good to talk to someone who is trained to listen for a change.
2007-05-21 18:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I know your pain is real, but know that the man you raised is now just that - a Man. And not just Your Boy. He is a self-suffient male and one that has chosen well...because of your excellent mothering. I have seen this happen before and it does not always end well. Please step back a bit, congratulate yourself for a job well done and love up your husband. That is the path to true happiness and grace. What about your daughters - do they give you any joy at all?
2007-05-21 17:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by lalo m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right for you yet mabe hes doing what you asked? btw i assume being rejected by ability of somebody who regarded superb sucks . idk why i've got faith the ought to allow you to comprehend all this i kno we merely knew one yet another for some weeks lol and im no longer likely to hardship you AND IM no longer head over heels in love with u yet i did like u or the way u have been for some reason " those are hurtful issues reason they communicate for you the two to no longer be propose regardless of the shown fact that it looks like u are telling him your too good additionally I have no clue who sends this after he became such an *** @c hahahaha heavily i think of u may well be bipolar....a smidge....??hmmm "i swear each and every person on yahoo solutions can bypass SUCK A D}CK can every person ever answer a rattling question on right here besides ''oh do i seem cute?'' and 'do you think of my weigh down will observe me?'' i hate this rattling website HAHA U ROCK i actually think of you acquire hearth on your abdomen i dig it!!!!
2016-11-04 23:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only too late if you don't start NOW. You don't have to get a divorce (unless you want to) to feel appreciated. YOU can volunteer; YOU can take classes; YOU can do all the things you want to - but you have to START SOMWHERE. Find a way to do the things that interest you and make you feel appreciated; no one else is EVER going to do it for you!
As to why he wants to teach - it doesn't matter. If it's what makes him happy, you should support him in it, as his wife is doing. There is more to life (MUCH MORE) than money, and apparently he knows that!
2007-05-21 17:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law feels the same way you do. I have been married to my perfect husband for over 20 years and we are best friends and soul-mates. She is snotty to me because she TELLS me she envies me and does hurtful things. I am a good daughter-in-law and she admits that BUT...we are not close and therefore HER SON is not that close to her anymore because of her jealousy.
If you want to keep him in your life - be nice to his wife.
My son and HIS wife have a perfect marriage like I do. I tell my daughter she DESERVES Mr. Perfect and she agrees! Tell your girls they deserve the best. Maybe they settled...like you seem to have.
2007-05-21 18:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear lady.. ur not robbed.. ur gifted.. u got such a lovely child and hez happy in his own world and iz keepin every one arnd him happy.. wht more u deserve.. ur so lucky.. in a time where evryones lukin for perfection and u have him wid u.. may not be as a husband but as a son.. i guess u jus miss ur husband thts all.. think bout it.. and ur daughters are fools.. yes.. u heard meh.. coz u said they divorced coz they wanted sumone like their brother.. wen they shld be actually working on their husbands to become one such husband and not luk for a new one..
2007-05-21 18:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well because you are jealous, I can't speak to the robbed piece but it might do you some good to talk to your husband.
2007-05-21 20:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋