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Question

My little brother had been fighting in Iraq for almost two years. He was almost due to be released. Then we got news Saturday morning that he had stepped on a road side bomb and was killed. God, I miss him so much. And I just cannot wrap my head around how this could happen. We always knew it was possible, but he had us convinced that he would come home safe.

I try to do anything to help myeself begin to accept this so I can start to deal with it and heal. I feel like I am moving backwards. Everything is so surreal. It feels like I am just an empty shell, with a heart that hurts so bad and a brain that keeps saying it is not real and Justin will be calling any minute to tell us it was all a big misunderstanding.

We have missed him SO much, but it doesn't even compare to the kind of missing we are doing right now. We missed so much in the last three years and were so looking forward to the chance to make up for lost time. Now we will never get to make up for it. Why?

Answer 1

Liar, Liar.Liar you even posted twice?
What a pathetic loser!

Answer 2

Honey, you will never find answers for what happened or why it had to happpen to your brother, there are none. I know it tears your heart apart, but realize he is not suffering anymore. It will take a while for you to completely grasp what has happened. When I lost my dad I felt some of what you are going thru. I would always see cool stuff then think I just gotta tell him, and then realize he was not there. I would see people on the street I thought was him and then realize it couldnt be. These things are not strange, only human. Find stregnth and comfort in your family and friends, they will be there for you anytime you need. You can still talk to him, he just can't answer you back now. When a close friend of mine died, I wrote him some letters and then just left them lying open on my bed so he could read them if he ever dropped by to watch over me. It really helped me sort my feelings out and let me tell him all the things that I just coudn't while he was still here. He would want you to live your life to the fullest and not waste every moment being lost in sadness for him. Live your life now for him, for all the things he cannot do anymore. I will say a prayer for you and your family.

Answer 3

First of all, my heart goes out to you and your family! I have lost a brother as well through an accident. The missing wiill never go away but eventually you will find a way to cope. Please try not to be hard on yourself and allow your self a chance to grieve. It is part of the healing process. If you have a spiritual side, use it as a tool by asking your faith to help you. Keep your brothers memory alive by cherishiing his memory in your hear. Time will help. Good luck and God bless!!! :)

Answer 4

I cannot answer your question. There is a God that can, I trust you will turn to him for the answers you seek. My heart goes out to you. Know that You and your family are in my prayers tonight.

It may not mean much to you now, but I thank you and your family for your sacrifice, no amount of words nor any amount of worldly goods will ever fill the void that you have but know this Your brother done his duty for his country, and he honored his family in his work. His sacrifice like so many others before him paves the way each day we rise up under a flag that still stands for freedom. Your lose is great tragedy but hold your head up with pride knowing that it wasnt in vain. As long as this country is free your brother will live forever.

May God richest blessings be upon you and your family, may he grant you comfort and understanding in your hour of need. In his sons Jesus Christ' name I pray and amen

Answer 5

OMG, you dear heart! I am so very, very, very, very sorry about your loss. There are no words to offer that could make you feel better right now. This war is a waste of our countries time, money, and soul. I would like G. W. Bush to send his girls in Iraq and have him worry day to day if they are going to return safely. I bet the war would end pretty soon then.

Again, I am so sorry. You, your family, and brother (rest in peace) are in my prayers. God bless him and I would like you to know that I appreciate his services he provided to our country in the military. Stick close with your family and help each other the best you can.

God bless you!

Answer 6

My heart goes out to you and your family. We have several close friends in Iraq right now, I can't imagine losing one of them, much less my brother.

He knew going into this that he may be called to sacrifice his life. He made the decision to give up his life if needed, so that other people could live in safety. There's something Christlike about his choice. The pain of losing him will get easier to bear with time, my hope for you is that you can learn something from his death. Find the positive message in the sadness and let that be his legacy.

Best wishes for you and your family; thank you for sharing your brother with us.

Answer 7

I lost my brother at age 32, several years ago. He died of cancer. I wondered the same thing. Why him. It took me awhile to accept what happened, but I finally did. I still miss him until this day, but there is nothing that we can do. Just remember this old saying--"Only the good die young". Hopefully he is in a better place than this cruel world that we live in.

Hope this has comforted you. Take care.

Answer 8

Only God can answer your questions, you need to pray and ask for help getting through this hard time. Just know your brother is in a much better place and not in any pain. You miss him and that will ease over time, but you can't rush it. Take time to grieve, cry, get angry, whatever it takes. But God will help you through this. He just wanted your brother with him for whatever reasons. You have my deepest sympathy, you and your family. You should be proud that your brother served his country - he is a hero.

Answer 9

That's war for you. Aren't you disappointed in El Presidente now?

I'm sorry for your loss. As with any death in the family, it's going to take a lot of time. Get counseling if it helps. When my uncle died I started writing him letters. They got me through the initial grief, and now I write to him when I'm very upset or when I'm in a great mood and I feel like he'd be proud of me. And even though every letter is sealed in an envelope and stuffed in a box in my closet, I know in my heart he's read every single one.

Answer 10

Okay. This isn't even close to your situation but....a pet of mine died once. She was especially dear to me.

I thought I'd have time to always make up for the school days I was in and not playing with her outside. Then....it just ended like that.

We all find it hard to accept the way loved ones can just disappear in seconds like that. We have to cherish every second and every moment we have with them before it's all over. Look back on the good times, reminisce with your parents, and just don't let him slip away from your mind forever. But just let him rest. He wouldn't want you to spend forever in tears mourning his death. He would've wanted you to keep on living. He'll still forever live on in your hearts forever.

It's the pain of knowing you left so much undone/unsaid that you can't even bring yourself to terms with the fact you'll never get to go back and do/say those things. It's hard at first.....but eventually you'll hopefully come to terms.

Hope this helps. Very sorry for your loss. All the best to you and your family.

Answer 11

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

The only suggestion I have for you is to join a support group. It'll help the healing begin knowing that you are not alone.