i have a friend who i consider to be close to me. but i feel like she thinks that she is better than me. like she is always making comments about how pretty she thinks she is and how skinny she is. how do you deal with a person like this?
2007-05-21 17:36:25 · 10 answers · asked by a new day 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she is probably better than you, and she hangs out with you so she can feel better about herself... she looks good by comparison.
I am such a jerk
LOL
2007-05-21 17:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by loutejada 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Are her comments confined to herself? Or does she also make comments about you not being as good as her? Is it possible you think you're not as good as her? Other than the comments on her looks what is she like? How has the quality of the friendship been? If you're truly close friends you should feel comfortable telling her to get over herself the next time she starts talking about how wonderful she is.
Here's another possibility - she doesn't really believe what she's saying about herself and is fishing for compliments. It sounds like your friend is a little insecure. Maybe you could help her feel better about herself by complimenting her before she has to do it for herself.
2007-05-22 00:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont enjoy the company of conceited people. Sometimes they can make me feel inferior and feel bad about myself. Even though I know better.
It's rather hard to deal with them specially cuz you're a friend. But if you are really good friends Then be honest and tell her in a nice way (tactfully) how she makes other people feel when she does it. Give her the benefit of the doubt that she might not be aware that she is conceited (lol). So she needs to know that she is indeed conceited.
2007-05-22 01:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God I have totally been in your shoes before. I never said anything to her about it though because I was scared of being mean. The best way I can think of to approach this without hurting her feelings for making her feel bad too, is to talk to her jokingly about it. When she comments on herself, tell her something like "Yeah just make me feel like crap because I don't look like you! Thanks!" In a more sarcastic way. Eventually she should get the idea that its bothering you and will hopefully stop. If you don't mind being more blunt then next time she says something I would just come out & say "When you say things like that it kinda makes you sound conceited and sometimes it makes me feel bad."
2007-05-22 00:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time she starts bragging, tell her it isn't polite to brag on oneself that when a person is truly attractive, others will make those comments about her. Emphasize the word "truly" when you say that.
The true beauty that counts is on the inside so don't let her bug you with this. Just try to be nice, smile and greet others and be sincere and honest with everyone ~ your beauty will outshine hers any day :)
2007-05-22 00:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obssesed, self-centered jerks! I dislike people like that because they always think they're all that when in truth they're not. She's not a friend if she feels she has to put you down to make herself feel better about herself.
2007-05-22 00:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Nigerian Babe Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them be conceited. It's a character flaw that'll stand out greater than the things she is boastful about.
2007-05-22 00:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You accept friends for who they are(the good, the bad and the ugly). If not, find new friends.
2007-05-22 00:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Glen B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them or just say 'Mm...hmm...sure...'.
I have a friend who does this but it's a joke between us now and we just laugh it off.
2007-05-22 00:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by devilishangelgirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them it will make her mad if you don't listen or go along with her, then she'll stop saying it.
2007-05-22 00:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋