i'm married but i feel terrible because i have a deeper love for someone else. we are no longer in a relationship but our hearts are still tied. i know it! some nites it burns me to be with out him but hey.... i am married and yes i love my husband but i ache for another man. what do i do???????? maybe i should just pray that it all goes away!
hey i could do like jessica on ONE LIFE TO LIVE...tell my husband and deal with what ever the consequences. NOT! help me out.
ANYBODY KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT????????
2007-05-21 15:44:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I couldnt relate... but if you think that eventuall the feeling will fade, dont tell your husband, there is no sense in hurting him if the whole thing will just go away. if the feeling is too strong that you think you'll be happier with the other guy, then you should end your marriage. life is too short to be unhappy in a relationship.
i bet you're gonna get lots of judgemental responses. remember this: people dont know what its like until they go through it. just focus on YOU and weed out the good advice to figure out what to do... good luck
2007-05-21 15:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by vixalle21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate, the first time I started to get feeling for someone else I started to think about why I was feeling like this. Then i told my husband that things weren't where they should be for us and I felt we needed to work on some thing to make our marriage better for the both of us. And I stayed away fro the other person so I wouldn't be temped. And time went by and then I started to get feelings for another person. And the issues that I brought up where still a part of our marriage and nothing improved.So I decided it would be best if I left and I did. It was the best for the both of us.
2007-05-21 23:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by nicole l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get caught up in lust... It almost happened to me and a friend I really respect. Luckily we are both very mature and addressed it right away. We know that we are naturally attracted to each other because we share a great deal. It's just not worth it for either of us to cheat on our spouses so we just remain good friends...
Sometimes you will be attracted to people who you have much more in common with due to work or outside interests and that's natural. Just remember that it's just infatuation and lust... nothing more.
I know I'd be lost and distraught without my husband and no other man has ever made me feel like that. He loves me for me and I love him for him even though we are complete opposites. I would really hate to hurt him like that.
Really put some thought into why you married your husband and how you felt the day you walked down the isle to him and said your vows. Sometimes we get so caught up that we forget how and why we fell in love with our spouses... try to remember...
2007-05-21 23:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Wife&Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in love with another man when you got married then your entire marriage is based upon a lie and you have committed fraud. I suggest you give your husband a divorce and let him find a woman who WILL love him (because you do NOT love him it's obvious) and who will be true to him and not still carry the torch for another man. Your husband doesn't deserve to be treated sor horribly.
2007-05-22 00:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to wonder about old loves but you shouldnt have gotten married if you weren't ready to give your whole heart and soul to your husband. You need to do something about how you feel about this guy......try and think about why you broke up, was he a jerk? Then do something to spice up your life with your husband.....do whatever it takes to take your mind off the other man.....even if it means telling your husband! If you can't get over it, don't do that to your husband....leave!
2007-05-21 22:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by tssmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say leave your husband but you made a promise to GOD. do you realy want to break that. maybe you should've thought about your LUST for another man before you got married. Stay away from the other man.
2007-05-21 23:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kacey D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl me and you both! Mine is or was a coworker. I just quit my job mostly because I felt uncomfortable about it and i know it wasn't right as we were both married. nothing really physically happened but my heart is so in it if you know what I mean. i feel a longing I have never felt before. Good Luck
2007-05-21 22:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by kd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to spice things up with you and your hubby
first before you do anything. Give it your best shot. And then if it doesn't work Talk to him about things. Think of things you did when you were still in love with hubby and try again.
If that doesn't work you need to tell him you are not happy and why it is only fair to him. Everyone needs their mate to be honest and loving.
2007-05-21 22:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. You're married. "For better or worse," remember? I know this is totally cliche, buy it is true that we think that the grass always greener on the other side. And it's really not. You won't be any happier if you leave your husband. You took a vow. Honor it.
2007-05-21 22:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by god_chic 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Of course we know what you are talking about.
You love your husband while sticking a knife right at his back.
I hope the other guy is using you and you end up losing both.
2007-05-21 23:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋