I can't have no more kids which i took care of that with my last kid. My husband is 26 and we don't have sex any more because i can't have any more kids. I don't understand this. Most men would love that. we have 3 together and he has one to his first wife. is there something wrong with me or is it him? Please don't say he getting it else where because i know for a fact he's not. and my weight ain't the problem either. any help?
2007-05-21 15:27:20 · 10 answers · asked by wishstar28 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sex life was fine until tubes was cut , burned and tied!!
2007-05-21 15:28:11 · update #1
ask a bunch of times and no answer! plan words he don't have one
2007-05-21 15:32:47 · update #2
My dad did that with my mom when she got a hysterectomy. it's a psycological thing with some men. and don't worry my husband is 26 and don't want any from me either. it must be the age. lol.
2007-05-21 15:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kacey D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband will be getting a vasectomy this summer because we have 5 children. It's not that we don't want anymore... because I'd have another... just too much college tuition $$$ to pay past 5 lol...
We love making love. We were just talking about how odd that the sex is still so mind blowing for us even after 5 kids, work, stress and financial obligations.
I digress. Anywho that is really odd. Maybe he sees you as a "mom" now and has problems seeing you as a you were before kids. I've heard of that. Like he only sees you as a maternal figure and not a sex pot.
Have you tried to sex it up a bit? Pass the kids to grandma and have a night alone? i know that that is next to impossible but you can also have a late night date like we do. Try to rekindle with the interference of children out of the picture.
Sometimes a simple massage and full naked body contact, kissing and touching can be soooo intimate that you almost forget the world around you. Don't add artificial stuff to the picture.. just keep it simple and natural.. that's what we do. We've tried "spicing things up" with all kinds of things but nothing works as well as just plan simple one on one contact and intimacy.
WOOO gotta run.. gotta text my husband.. lol
P.S. flirting with text messages can be great foreplay... ;o)
2007-05-21 22:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Wife&Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound like an issue with you not being able to have anymore children. Sometimes (we) men and women experience intimacy issues, could be something from his past or it could be the fact that you have a large family. He could be just tired. Why not try couples therapy, since you have asked and received no answer it would not hurt, you are trying to keep communication open this is just another forum. you can check on-line put in therapy and there is a website that will allow you to enter your zip code and it pulls up the picture and bio on the therapist in your area. Also I read some of your replies and tssmommy's answer was very interesting.
2007-05-21 23:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by abigale g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just wondering if you made the decision to get your tubes tied together or if it was something you decided together. I know that its your body and all, but he may feel like he was left out of a decision he thought was important. He may have a bruised ego, men are a lot more sensitive about some things than they like to admit. Another thing I wondered is if he is someone who's religion is against any form of birth control or something like that?? Just speculation, hope that gives you some things to think about. Good Luck.
2007-05-21 22:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by tssmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he have a say when you decided to make the decision of not having anymore kids? If not that could be the reason why he's not interested right now. He might have wanted to have another child, did you ever talk to him about that? Maybe it's a guy thing knowing they can't produce offsprings anymore. I wouldn't worry too much about it, he should be over it soon.
2007-05-21 23:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his sex drive is slwoing down?Do you have a lot of bills?How is his job?Do you make him mad a lot?Many things can be the cause, but to find out your going to have to talk to him.Before you do though try sending the kids to grannys firday cook his favorite dinner and meet him at the door in a raincoat.
2007-05-21 22:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a weekend without the little ones.
Stir the coals, Get the in-laws to baby sit or ma and pa.
He just needs a friendly reminder.
2007-05-21 22:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels like the purpose of sex is to procreate and therefore doesnt want to have sex anymore
2007-05-21 22:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by wkuchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He don't like a "broken" woman. I wouldn't mind, but I'm not him!!!!!!!!
2007-05-21 22:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask HIM what the problem is!
2007-05-21 22:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋