2007-05-21 15:23:45 · 35 answers · asked by darcyh24 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
That sounds like a wonderful idea....Congrats on your new addition!!! :o)
2007-05-21 16:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by city girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so.
Having the same middle name as the passed baby will probaby give the living child a sense of not being as good as the other, or thinking that you guys loved the first baby more.
Don't connect the living baby to the passed baby. Let the new baby know about her passed sibling, but let her/him make his/her own identity.
Please except my sympathy for your loss, and God bless your family.
2007-05-25 14:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Super Answerer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, great question. I think that if you gave the new baby the same first name that would be weird for both the child and you and the other parent. Middle name's easier.
I know what you're getting at, wondering if the child's identity will be secure with the name of a former child and I think it's great that you're contemplating the possible reprocussions of this. Since you're going with the middle name though, I think you'll be okay.
I think the most important thing is to treat this new child as their own individual self, don't make him/her feel as if he/she is a carbon copy, as if you're using this new child as a replacement for what was lost. He/she is his/her own person. It sounds to me like you recognize that and have very good intententions, so I think you're good as long as the middle name doesn't bring too much grief for you and the other parent.
I'm sorry for your loss and hope that you and your family move forward with this new child to happier times. Honor the child who passed in every way possible and let this new child offer you happiness in their own way. Congratulations on your new addition, I wish you only the best!
2007-05-21 15:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by tenayaledeux00 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was killed in a car accident 13 years ago. When I was last pregnant my current husband and I talked about using her middle name as one of our choices for the babys name. We decided it was a wonderful way to remember my daughter. It is always hard to lose a child and that is a wonderful way to celebrate the babies memory.
2007-05-21 15:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by HeatherC-P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be very cool. Then your new baby would have it's guardian angel from heaven with him or her all the time. It is special that you would do this. Your first baby should never be forgotten. You will reunite with that baby someday in heaven. What a special story you can share then. How sweet and caring.
2007-05-21 15:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would advice caution.
It may be a lovely way of honoring your lost child.. for you.. but it may also burden your new baby with many emotional issues. Just be aware that your good intentions may backfire one day.. teenagers are unreasonable and hormonal at the best of times, dealing with having your dead sibling's name could well be too much for some. Others may feel a connection through that.. it's your decision to make.
I cannot imagine the pain of losing a child.. if you feel you need to do this, then I would support your decision.. but give it careful thought.
2007-05-21 15:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes its a wonderful way to remember the baby that passed away. Sorry for your loss. Congrats on the new baby!!!!
2007-05-21 17:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by snowlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. It is absolutely okay to use your baby's middle name for a new baby. Using the name of a loved one that has left us is one of the ways we help them to live on in our hearts, and acknowledge that they once lived. Don't let anyone tell you what is and isn't appropriate. If it feels right for you, do it. God bless.
2007-05-21 15:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. I think that if you gave the same 1st name that'd be weird. My parents lost their first child when he was 2 days old and he had my dad's name as his middle name. When my brother was born, they gave him the same middle name. If it's a special name then by all means go ahead. I am sorry for your loss, and congratulations on this pregnancy!!
2007-05-21 15:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kittieashy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as people know about it. A friend's parents gave her the same name as a daughter that had died before her birth. One day at church, the priest announced that this mass was in memory of Jane Smith. They got 50 calls from people who thought the younger Jane had died.
2007-05-21 15:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU are comfortable with it, then why not? I know a family where all 4 boys have the same middle name. :) And as far as losing a baby, whatever you are comfortable with is what's right for your family!
2007-05-21 15:27:17 · answer #11 · answered by Molly O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋