my wife is leaving me should i keep paying her bills?

Question

iam only the working parent i take care of all the bills she is now taking care of the divorse papers she still in our apartment she does what ever she does comes home late and tells its over i dont love u i love her and i have a little kid so i dont know if i should continue paying all her things

Answer 1

Pay your stuff and support the child. Get custody of the child and turn the ex over to whoever she runs off to.

Answer 2

I would pay all the bills that would maintain and support your child if they are still living with you, but as far as it comes to paying her bills (like cell phone, spending money) I would do what feels right for you and try and work out a seperation agreement until the divorce is final. Depending on where you live there may need to pay alimony payments to her, and a judge will look favouribly on you if you show that you always tried your best to negotiate fairly.

I am so sorry this is happening to you. You sound like a really loving husband and father, take care.

~Mandy

Answer 3

When you go through the divorce ask for mediation. They can divide things up so that each party is responsible for a portion of the debts. You will need to show them that she's been unwilling to contribute if the bills are in your name. After that the only legal obligation you have is child support unless the courts find in favor of her receiving alimony. If she's the one filing then it's unlikely she'll get this. So no unless the courts state you should pay her bills then you are not legally obligated to do so. If they are in your name then yes continue or it will be your credit on the line.

Answer 4

You poor man. When the divorce courts are done with you you will not only be paying child support, but probably alimony too. You should have made sure she had a job when you got divorced so you would only be stuck with paying child support. If the two of you are in debt, you'll probably be stuck with that too because she has no income on her own. So, don't pay anything you don't absolutely have to. Sad to say, the family court system still heavily favors the woman.

A friend of mine has been divorced for four years and his ex is still dragging him through the courts with false orders of protection and extortion (threatening to have him thrown in jail and he'll never see his daughter if he doesn't give her more money). Whatever money she doesn't get, the lawyers, hers and yours, will.

Answer 5

I wouldn't say give a lump some, but help out with small things that keep you guys in good grace for your kid's sake. Also helping her out why she doesn't have a job nor a place of her own might help with the divorce. Seeing how if she was to slap child support on you. Also try taking her to the side and talking to her about some deals and demands that can help you both before the divorce files threw as well settle ling who'll get what so when you get to court everything will go quick, smooth, and fast ok. GOOD LUCK.....

Answer 6

See an attorney RIGHT NOW!! I don't know what bills you have, and whether some of them are attributable to her. Some may be martial debt and some may be her individual debt (and some may be yours). At any rate, you need to get an order that sets out who is supposed to pay what while the divorce is pending. Also, if she is the mother of the child and you are taking care of the child, you need to get a support order. (The support is for the child, not for you.) Everything will finally set out in a settlement agreement that the court will approve, but in the meantime you need to ACT NOW to be sure she pulls her share of the freight. Oh, and also, it sounds like you need to get her out of the house, which the attorney can help you with. Good luck. Hope it works out for you.

Answer 7

I understand the situation with the little kid and all, but don't let her take advantage of you either..I mean, maybe you should only help out with as much as you think is necessary for the kid but not for her..and if she's leaving you for another person..tell her to tell that person to pay her bills. You can't pay for everything, because if you do...she's just going to keep on taking advantage of you and using you..and I don't think that's fair for you! You should use your own judgment and make this decision on what you think is the best thing because after all You are the one that is going to have to deal with the situation..not anybody else but I already stated what I think...Good luck...

Answer 8

If she doesn't love you then she should move out with or without the kid. If the bills are not breaking your back then it's a good idea that you pay at least the minimum or it could affect your credit rating. Once the divorce is final you will no longer be responsible for the bills on her name.

Answer 9

If you continue to keep her up, she is still going to rub it in your face that she thinks she has you under her control. I understand you have the baby and you want to do what's best for her/him, but you can't let her treat you that way. Sounds to me like she is being very immature. I would take the baby and go to a hotel when she is out late and let her come home to an empty house. Get an attorney and take care of your baby, but certainly not keep paying for her to be mean to you. I agree with the previous post also, you don't want to ruin your credit, so pay what you have in your name. Good Luck, and I am so sorry!

Answer 10

Absolutely do not continue to pay her bills! If the bills are hers and in her name only, do not pay them. Do not allow her to take advantage of you or use you. You should continue to share the financial obligations regarding your child but that is all. I am sorry for your situation and I wish you the best.



Please get an attorney to look after you best interest in the divorce. You could really get the short end of the stick if you allow the divorce to proceed without legal representation on your part.

Answer 11

First of all, cut off all her credit cards and speak to the bank so that she cannot take out any loans without your signatures. You still have to account for how you spend the money since it is common account, but I assume you are more responsible.

Since she has not worked, you may have to pay alimony for a period of time until she gets work. You have to prove that she can work. If the kid is both of yours, you have to think about whether you want her to take the kid of not. If she takes the kid, she has the excuse not to work and make you pay both alimony and child support.