My husband of 10 years goes to escorts?

Question

I have filed for divorce but I am not sure if I am ready to go forward.

Does anyone have any idea of WHY men are addicted to this type of behavior?

Answer 1

Sweetie what you must do is not to consume this inside you, yes why some men do such thing, some will say the husband is not satisfied at home, some will just prove to them self that they still got it even though that they're married, and yes they are some that loves the thrill on doing it. Stupid us will only say how or why, but in reality there's a few good men that hasn't been discovered by the right person.
So why don't you try your best and think about you now, not what might happen when you divorce him. People like you do deserve happiness and please don't even believe that there's such things as "soul mate"...........good luck..

Answer 2

Stop waffling.........you have filed for divorce.....was that to see if he would stop going to escorts? well, the writing is on the wall right there for your broken heart to read. In this day and age, it really is unacceptable to have many different "partners" at the same time,,,,,he is putting you at risk, And not all guys are addicted to this behavior. Honest. If you weren't married, it may be different, but is this what you expected from marriage> You may have low self esteem, and this is why you accepted the "Escorts".
You can absolutely find a man who will be ADDICTED to YOU and ONLY YOU and you deserve nothing less. Kick the guy who isn't to the curb and let him have fun with his Escorts, while you move on to a real life.

Answer 3

Men are addicted to sex for their own reasons and because they are not satisfied being with only one person. It's the thrill of it being with someone new and this is a high for them. Escourts are prostitutes in disguse you only have to open your phone book and give them a call to know what they are!!Many years ago my best friend had her own escourt service and often she will tell me stories. Alot of bussiness men use them when they are out of town. She would take credit cards and hide behind a bussiness name to protect her clients. Clients would rent a hotel room and that is where they conducted bussiness. She would give them an hour of her time for a certain amount of money. ....and each act that she would perform would hold a different price. Everything goes if a man has the money to pay for it even two girls if the customer wanted it. Men would meet her on their lunch hour and many were married men with prominent jobs. I grew up with this friend all my life and loved her like a sister and never approved of what she was doing.She is no longer in the bussiness and I do not see her to often we just sort of went our different ways. If I were you I would go see my medical doctor to be sure your husband has not affected you with any std's. Many men are only carriers and things may not show up for years. Look up hpv-cervical cancer. I don't mean to scare you but you need to protect yourself. I realize that you are confused over your husband and why he did this to you.....the best thing that you could do at this time is to get a proffessional counselor to help you through this so that you can get the strength to do what must be done. Every man that patronizes these establishments have a million reasons why they get caught up with prostitutes and no excuse is the same. The sad thing is that cheating is a choice and never a mistake. Your husband changed your whole life by what he did to you and the trust is broken and gone forever. I don't know if you could learn to live with it because that is all you will ever be able to do. I just know that I could not do it!!! The devastation would be to deep for me and nothing would ever be the same. My heart goes out to you sweetie.

Answer 4

Because some men fantasize the grass is greener on the other side , some men might get freaky with an escort and wouldnt dream of asking a wife to do that, some men just can't say no to a sure thing ...these are the dogs .
Then there are the good men who think family and monogamy go hand in hand and vows that they most likely took in a church mean something .
I'm not sure a confirmed cheater would ever change. so what are you willing to live with or without thats what you need to decide, because after 10 years i doubt he will change ...humans are creatures of habit after all.

Answer 5

Are all you women reading what all these guys are saying ,right away they assume he isn't getting it at home.You could give your husband sex 24/7 it wouldn't make a difference he would go and seek it out.You men justify all your wrong doings.It's never something you did it's always the wife.Face it, all men are the piggiest of dogs that ever walked on four legs and you no it.And for the wife with the husband who has a escort problem why are you letting him get away with it.Are you that desperate for a husband, there are some good men out there not many mind you but some.
Go find one that will treat you right.

Answer 6

Hi Labiamon, That would of been a terrible spot to be in for both of you. I can understand why you call for an escort girl. Having no sex isn't fair to anybody. You must still love your wife you are still with her. Usually cheating on a wife or husband is a big NONO!!! But i can see your reasoning why. You daughter is 19 and very young and still has a lot to learn about life. She may need money fast and thinks this is the only way to get it. If i was in your spot i would have a one on one talk with your daughter and see what is going on with her. Them you will have to explain why you are sleeping around with call girls. In a case like this i would not tell your wife what is going on. Why hurt her??? She has done nothing wrong to get hurt. Talk to your daughter and make an agreement that either will tell your wife,or her mom anything that happen that night. You need to be careful with whom you have an appointment with. Usually i would call you every name in the book for being a cheater. But i see this a lot different that usually. Yes i am a woman and my ex husband cheated with a girl and he was getting sex from me. The funny thing i found out last week ( I caught them out on the town) it's his first wife that let him for a drug life with a real loser. You never no i guess. Good Luck To Both Of You.. A Friend Who Knows What Is Going On. Clowmy

Answer 7

it varies in the individual just like women who are addicted to being with men who are addicted to this type of behaviour (im not trying to say you are one it is jsut an example. I used to be one) they all do it for their own reasons. I am very sorry he threw away 10 years. If you cave he will most likely continue with this behavior ask yourself if you could live with that, If the answer is no then divorce is your only option.

Answer 8

Men go to whores to have sex with a woman who will do whatever they want and leave them feeling like a great lover, a great guy, a big spender, a real stud. If he really were any of those things he wouldn't need a whore.
Escorts not only have sex, (for those who are dumb enough to believe otherwise I have this bridge in Brooklyn for sale cheap) but cost much more than a streetwalker or strippers lap dance.
That's money out of the marital bank accounts.
You can stay or you can go, but his basic insecurity will be forever, eventually he will look as pathetic and confused as Hef, surrounded by women who wouldn't look at him twice if he didn't come at them money first.

Answer 9

I think you are asking the wrong question. The question is why are you not ready to go forward. His behaviour is his....it would be nice to have a great reason, but that isn't life. I was with my bf for 3 years of which he continued to cheat over and over (sometimes with strippers). I personally did find that he had BPD, but that only gave me a reason to stay longer....then I realized that it didn't matter why he did what he did. What mattered was that he could not be the person I needed in my life and I had to make a choice as his issues were affecting me.

BTW...yes get tested and stay away from him.

Answer 10

Men do it for sex with no strings attached, it's strictly for sex, nothing else.

He probably did it because he's not getting any at home, but actually loves his family and doesn't want to leave over sex.

Plenty of guys, who are married a long time, do this because the wife starts trippin over sex, and it actually takes the stress off the man over sex, and he can stop bothering the wife also.

To me, it's a lot better than having an affair, when feelings are involved, this is strictly physical.

By the way, excorts always use condoms while affair women rarely do, so you're safe.