I have been married before and divorced for reasons other than adultery. My fiance' divorced his wife because she committed adultery. The bible says in Matthew 19 that unless the reason for divorce is adultery, to remarry would be to commit adultery. I am saved and am getting ready to be baptized. It is my understanding through the Church of Christ that all my sins are washed away and it is as if I had never sinned. If that is what the bible teaches, then my past sins should not carry over into my new "reborn" life, right? If there is anyone out there who can help me to understand this before I remarry on May 27th I would greatly appreciate it.
2007-05-21 14:47:55 · 30 answers · asked by Sherry M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is a question you need to ask your minister not us.
2007-05-21 14:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
When you divorced it was not for adultery, therefore you are not free to marry now.
It's like if someone told you they would get you a stolen car and you agree. Later you become a christian and then the person shows up with the car. You can't take the car on the grounds that it was stolen before you became a christian.
You were married. You belonged to someone else. That marriage was not disolved in the way the scriptures dictate it must be to free you for remarriage. You cannot remarry without going against the verse you cited. A person who was married can only scripturally remarry if their first spouse either dies or was divorced because of fornication. (Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9)
2007-05-24 14:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by JoeBama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will find that alot of people have different opinions on whether you can remarry or not. I've done alot of research, talked to people etc. My conclusion is you can not remarry.
The New Testament in the bible was written in Greek and then translated to English. The word adultery or marital unfaithfulness as stated in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9 is the wrong translation. The Greek word used in those scriptures was porneia which actually means fornication or premarital sex. The scriptures are actually referring to the espoused Jewish couples of that time when a couple was called husband and wife and yet had not consummated their marriage. If it was discovered that one was involved with another person, then "divorce" was allowed.
So, then what does this mean for us? It means that there is not one biblical excuse or reason to allow divorce, period!!!
Therefore, you are to remain single or to be reconciled to your first spouse.
2007-05-21 23:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were saved AFTER the divorce, then that is true. However, some churches may not allow you to be a leader in the church, or even teach Sunday school if they know about it. I'm not saying to keep it a secret, but a church that feels that way will probably need to hear your whole testamony, and then base their opinion on that. If they still wouldn't, then they are probably too legalistic. Your sins are washed away, but sometimes there are still consequences, i.e. a woman who has a baby out of wedlock can be forgiven of the sin of adultery (sex outside of marriage), but still has the consequence of that sin (the child). Which isn't to say the child is bad, I was just making an example.
Welcome to the family, Sister! Church of Christ is pretty liberal, so I doubt you will have any problems whatsoever. Just study that Bible, and arm yourself with the Word.
2007-05-21 22:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Marriage is a sacrament, not a sin. There is no reason to think that baptism would wash away a previous marriage sacrament.
I haven't seen the newly baptized have another marriage ceremony, even if they stay with the same husband. I don't think all those newly saved souls are living in sin so you might just want to join a religious group that isn't so adamant about divorce. There are plenty of them.
2007-05-21 22:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm no expert on the issue of divorce but according to my beliefs (based on King James Bible) once you accept the Lord of your savor then yes your sins are washed away and are forgive. Now if you would like more concrete areas to look into where you can share you're faith and find further information I would recommend the following sites.
Lifeway ministries hosts a wide library among many other things where you can get involved. Try researching your topic via the search engine.
http://www.lifeway.com/lwc/
Next would be Living Proof Ministries - Beth Moore. If you have never heard this lady speak you need to. She speaks to the heart of a women and is so powerful in her devotion she'll help keep you on the path you've choose. Beth's been through a lot in her life. Take one of her video bible studies it's well worth it.
http://www.lproof.org/
The last is Proverbs 31. I've learned so much by subscribing to their daily devotionals. Including many relationship issues I've struggled with. They moved their site and I had trouble with their search engine but the material is there all you have to do is look for it. www.proverbs31.org
Just remember God has the capacity to forgive anyone at any time for any reason. Jesus made sure this was possible. He knows we are vulnerable to making mistakes so he's willing to forgive if we only ask it in his name. Good luck with your wedding.
2007-05-21 22:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wrote an article about this on my blog. Check it out in the link below. The conclusion is no, you should not remarry. The Bible says that we shouldn't divorce, too. But if we do, we are to remain single or else be reconciled to our hubbies.
I'm sorry for your pain in this, sister. May the God of all Mercy grant you strength to do what is right, not that which is self-pleasing or pleasing to others.
2007-05-21 22:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by MomWtrmn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is what it all comes down to. You would not be committing adultery to remarry in that church. where it would be an issue is if you and him were sleeping together after your baptism and before your marriage. how ever ask your bishop or missionaries they would be able to explain it better it has been a while since i left the Church however that is what i remember from it.
hope this helps you
Melly
2007-05-21 21:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by answer queen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who are you marrying - a church or a man?
The bible says a lot of things. And it also puts a lot of ideas into people's heads, ideas that continue to plague other spots in the world. So I'd take what it says with a grain of salt because people following their bible or whatever text has gotten the world into the mess it's in today.
The only thing that matters is:
Do you love him? Does he love you?
If so, then be one with him. Marry him for goodness sake! And leave the other stuff behind. Nothing good really ever came from worrying about it.
2007-05-21 21:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am saved and can tell you yes you are now a new creature in Christ, as if you have not ever been married. Nothing from the past carries over. Unfortunately living in this world, we'll still have baggage though, memories, hard feelings from some people or mabey even illness from your old lifestyle. However whatever you did before salvation is forgiven and never held against you. It is separated from you as far as the East is from the West.
2007-05-21 21:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Read Romans 7 and 8 - they should definitely help you. Here's a highlight:
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus,because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.
2007-05-21 22:22:12 · answer #11 · answered by Nick C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋