wow! I'm married with 2 kids... been 18 months since anything physical has happened between us.... small town... we are "well-off" by any standard... whole town will "spin" .... how dare I expect passion in addition to nice house, camper, boat, etc... Thing is... I've fallen completely for someone else......... but he's "unavailable"
2007-05-21 14:16:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound very confused, so you need to sit down and think things over before you do anything rash.
Marriage is a big commitment, and you have to make a long evaluation of yours. If you still love your husband but have drifted apart, perhaps counseling might help. If you both love each other but cannot talk, you need help from a third objective party. People change over time, and so do marriages. But seek help before you do something you will regret- like hurting your kids and your husband.
If you and your husband don't love each other anymore, then call it quits. But don't be seen with another man while you are still married- you have a reputation to protect and your children will be harmed because of your actions, so be careful. Small towns can be very cruel....
As for the other person. ....If he is unavailable, then that's it.
I assume he's married, too. And he's probably telling you that he feels he loves you, not his wife.
You may be feeling the thrill of the unknown and the excitement you feel your marriage lacks now, but it is an illusion.....BE CAREFUL. You are playing with fire and if you continue you will eventually get burned!
2007-05-21 14:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why are you asking us? apparently your having an affair with someone else or had an affair and breaking up another family. Kids involved? yes. To bad. I guess he knows and doesn't give a damn, just wants you out, what happen, you tell him over guilt? "we only did it once" in the hay field"
I would get out and take what I could before he changes his mind. Forget the other guy and hope he doesn't have a change of heart and tell his wife and break up their family, she may come after you too.
You'd better get out of town while the getting is good and start over in a new town lady. If it was me, I'd make your life miserable. The town would "spin" all right, toward you, first you'd loose you job, then the kids.
2007-05-21 15:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not about the town, the gossip, the house, the camper, the boat, etc....
You can't build a life with those things. They're nice but they're not life-building.
Do you want to continue living as you have? Or do you want to find someone who loves you and who you love too?
Only you can really answer that. Ignore the rest of the stuff. Think about the basics - you, the kids, building a loving family.
Good luck!
2007-05-21 15:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are the only one that cares that you have fallen for a man that is not available and you are married on top of it. Tell you what take the boat out on your own and sail the ocean until you get a conscience.
2007-05-21 14:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by melinda d 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OH MY GOD!!! your husband just asks you to leave and all you can do is brag about your material things....Ya you need to go and let this man get a real wife and keep some of his respect in that small town that you live in. I bet you'll be the laughing stock. Just remember all that bragging about material things your doing, well he might win it all in court!!
2007-05-21 14:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by How can I help? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you're refusing any responsibility in what has happened in your marriage. You really want your kids to grow up in a broken home?
You're apparently smart enough to be a teacher. Are you smart enough to get a marriage counsellor?
2007-05-21 18:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you want validation for falling for someone else.
It happens, and I assume you told him Yes.
Sounds like this going to a real nasty court fight. Because he can not separate material stuff from love.
I wish you the best.
2007-05-21 14:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out now, this is your chance. And you might not have another. Let him go, and you go too. Pursue the guy of your interest or find someone else, but go go go! Better now than later. And it'll be easier now. And it'll be easier to move on, for both of you, now.
2007-05-21 14:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by lizzie 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's unavailable. Don't be stupid. You could lose custody of your children. Are you a TEACHER? You could lose your job, too. Work on your marriage and stop this!
2007-05-21 14:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well do ya? Dont use him til the next best thing comes along its not right.
2007-05-21 14:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by nspiredmind 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋