Why bitter person cannot be a better person?

Question

Hatred is incline to bitterness... and both of them cannot be separated

Answer 1

The bitter person is blaming others, and not forgiving to others.

Thus the person does not have the focus on bettering oneself.

Answer 2

Alright guys, he is not saying that all instances of bitterness is driven by hatred. He is saying that hatred sometimes is the stem of bitterness. Definition of incline is:

1. To cause to lean, slant, or slope.
2. To influence to have a certain tendency; dispose

And when it is both involved they are not able to be separated. Then, he is asking why can a bitter person not be a better person. So, here is my go at my opinion.

The definition of bitterness is:

1. Having or being a taste that is sharp, acrid, and unpleasant.
2. Causing a sharply unpleasant, painful, or stinging sensation; harsh: enveloped in bitter cold; a bitter wind.
3. Difficult or distasteful to accept, admit, or bear: the bitter truth; bitter sorrow.
4. Proceeding from or exhibiting strong animosity: a bitter struggle; bitter foes.
5. Resulting from or expressive of severe grief, anguish, or disappointment: cried bitter tears.
6. Marked by resentment or cynicism:

So, in light of all the definitions...if you cannot except or bare the event to learn from how can you be a better person? The point of everything is to learn from ones experiences. If you cannot learn from the event, that others have dealt with, then obviously you are not able to better. If you cannot deal with the event you cannot inform properly. And love is not in your heart.

Thanks for the thought provoking question. I have been waiting for another. :D

Answer 3

I think hatred is most akin to a lack of energy, being tired, and worn out...which doesn't necessarily encompass bitterness. It takes a lot of energy to hate something or someone. Overtime, you might become bitter about particular past experiences and subsequent situations that bear some similarity, for sure.

I think hate can be separate though. It usually entails memory of past experiences. So, reflection would require periodic hate, which may sometimes get misdirectly represented in social interactions, and judged as bitter by others, but will not get represented within the majority of interpersonal exchanges.

Bitterness, I think, would imply outwardly projected hatred, albeit based on previous individual experience, but on a grand, general level. A glossing over of the real reasons for negative emotionality which would result in negative social presentation, also bitter judgement of behaviour, but serious internal pain. Personally, I don't know how this would be possible, without ensuing maladaptive behaviour, like criminality or anger issues for example.

If we assume most people are not maladaptive, hatred can exist but bitterness is most often a judgement. If we assume most people are maladaptive and project bitterness that stems from an all-encompassing hatred, bitterness will be consistently outwardly expressed but also judged by others as bitter.

As for your question of how bitter people can't be better?? I don't really understand how bitter would imply being less favourable (if you accept that as the opposite of "better")...unless we assume that most people are maladaptive and are therefore not better than other people...

Interesting question.

Answer 4

Sure they can. Bitterness is not necessarily caused by hatred. It can also be caused by jealousy, emotional trauma or pain, and various other negative emotions.

A bitter person is not LIKELY to be a better person, but they are not mutually exclusive.

Answer 5

No, you can be bitter and not hate.
People who are bitter usually have a good reason for it and a sad story that goes with it. Chances are that they were terribly hurt by someone they trusted and loved. That's just one reason a person can be bitter.
That Bitter Person probably was or is a good person also; too many scenarios.

Answer 6

Better than who, their presented self or others and for what. Bitter is as factual substance of life as is sweet. There is an expression of Hegel's: "Thus the life of God and divine cognition may well be spoken of as a disporting of Love with itself; but this idea sinks into mere edification, and even insipidity, if it lacks the seriousness, the suffering, the patience, and the labor of the negative." G.W.F. Hegel


http://www.gwfhegel.org/


The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative.

Answer 7

If you mean bitter publicly to others I completely disagree. Many more people have secret hatreds or prejudices and are publicly normal otherwise. I guess I would need to know your definition of bitter.

Answer 8

Bitter is better if you like hops.

Answer 9

Actually they can. To one person, you can be mean, but to another you can respect and cherish their lives. It isnt all hate even for the scariest people!

Answer 10

Positive Karma is the way to be a better person...