I've had problems, how could this affect me later? [Read more]?

Question

In August of 2005, I started to cut myself, had sucidial thoughts.. My parents found out in January.. I was really ashamed of myself. They got me help at a psychologist or whatever it's called.. They didn't help ATT ALL. Well, I haven't cut myself since.. I'm 14. I've had anxiety problems, & I love someone I'm NEVER going to have. UNREQUITED love hurts horribly, I sware.I think I have anger problems. But what I'm trying to ask is that could cutting myself develop problems later in life, like right now?

Oh & I forgot to mention when I think of my whole 'cutting incident' .. I get really mad at what happened and start crying.

Answer 1

It shows you have subconsious problems that start up at a time of crisis. So yes, whenever you have a similar problem, you will end up doing the same thing. Psychiatrists and sh** may help, but if it doesn't you need to do it yourself. Remember that your not alone, and that there is somebody out there...if nothing works, I suggest you see dodgeball....that's a funny movie, and should cheer you up. Pop the video in whenever you feel angry with yourself. It's a psychiatry trick I learned. You don't necessarily have to put on Dodgeball, but it should do the trick :)

Answer 2

It is good to hear that you have stopped cutting yourself. It takes alot of courage and recognition that that is harmful and that you are so much better than resulting to destructive behaviour.

Loving someone that you cannot have, is really nothing at your age. I don't mean to speak ill-against your feelings, but since you are only 14, how do you really know the love feeling? It is a great emotion, and overwhelming, and sometimes could feel like love, is in all actuality a crush. Again, I don't wanna over step how you are feeling, because only you know how you feel, but please rethink this love thing.

As for future problems as per cutting, you could develop other issues. I think that because you have found ways of releasing anger, or anxiety before, that you are unsure of how to channel that now. When you are feeling the way you do now, maybe write in a journal, go for a run, walk, crank your music up and dance crazily. You need to channel it to work for you as an advantage, not a disadvantage.

Only you know what the pain felt like and how you felt before, during and after the cutting, why would you want to go back to that again? I understand that you were releasing stresses, but being self-destructive is not the answer. You have been in therapy for that, and what it was that you had talked about, put it to good use now. You are young and lots of life ahead of you. Now is the time to make ammends with whatever issues that you need to do, and make a great life for yourself.

Also, talk to your therapist again about these subjects. I am sure that they can point you in the right direction, not advise, that is for you to figure out.

Good luck in the future.

Answer 3

Yes. It is sad but true a lot of people find solace in pain. Not cool though. I hate to say this because I am so against medication but it sometimes does help. If you are openly expressing this than maybe you should do something about it.

As far as the whole love thing goes... forget it. (however you are right it doesn't just hurt it really blows) Go look in the mirror and know you are worth it. And whiel you are there truly look at yourself. All you are doing when you are cutting yourself is stopping the healing process of getting through this time in your life. When you look at your scars I KNOW that it really doesn't make you feel good about yourself, mine don't.

It can hurt you more than physically, it hurts you emotionally and can hurt any kind of professional life that you wish to have.

You are very "well written." Take that and run with it.

Answer 4

Cutting yourself usually means that you have a mental or emotional problem going on in your life. These metal/emotional problems can affect you throughout, even without cutting. So, what I'm trying to say is that the actual cutting isn't why you might have some problems. It is the problem you started cutting yourself to begin with. That's the problem. You could maybe try out for a sport or something. Or get involved with some actvity. As for your love, just step up and talk to them, or tell them how you feel.

Answer 5

I would say the problems it will cause besides scars(which would be a constant reminder) would be never learning how to deal with problems and emotions that you once before dealt with by cutting. Dealing with how you feel can be very hard and scary and yes unrequited love does hurt but sometimes that is part of the unfairness of life. Just know that what you feel in your heart is true and will never be and let it go. Preoccupy yourself with activies that make you feel good...friends, music, sports, art....whatever you are passionate for. Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

I think that if you find cutting yourself helps, soon it'll turn into bigger self-mutilaton in order to help with bigger crisises in life. So, yep, big problem. Plus you probably get this low-self esteem that you aren't valuing yourself as you should be, and you're treating yourself like crap when you injure yourself like that.

You know, love's a word that's as strong as hate. Make sure you know if you're really loving this guy. A guy who will never love you as much you do for him. Someone who is probably neglecting you at the moment, right? Well, I guess, if you really do think you love him, hate him or exclude him from your life. You shouldn't be taking that kind of crap by loving and caring about someone and having to hurt yourself to feel better about it. I don't think you have anger problems, I think you're lost for an answer. Whether you love this guy or not. Whether if life's worth living. And I can't help you any further, because that's for you to figure out, and you know the answer =)

Answer 7

Yes it could effect you later if you don't start developing more healthy coping skills. Move on from the unrequited love. It is never as good as you think it will be. Go to anger management classes, see a therapist and talk to a doctor if you really feel you cannot cope any longer

Answer 8

you sound soooo much like my friend :|....

to be honest you might of gone through a stage, depression what ever you may want to call it, the fact you seeked proffesional help is a good thing , ask ur psychologist on what he thinks if ur still in touch with him.

anger problems when your a teen is normal, just general mood swings i would think?.. correct me if im wrong.

id say that it wouldnt cause any major future problems other than the obvious physical ones.