will a relationship work if theres not 100% trust there? is anyone in a relationship like this or have been? ive been with my boyfriend 4 years, see him everyday and love him loads, couldnt imagine life without him and he gives me everything, i caught him chatting on the internet so signed up as another girl and chatted for a while, didnt like what i heard so i had it out with him and he said it was just a bit of fun and meant nothing, when i was talkin to him on the net as this other girl i tex him asking what he was doing a few times and hed say watchin tv or wotever, so now i always think hes lying and dont always trust him, i always wonder what he is doing and if he is on the net still even though he swears he isnt, will i build the trust back up again do you think, he dont work at the moment so hes at home all day but when im with him i think why was i being silly thinking like that! im so paraniod all the time its driving me mad,mayeby time will heal it??what do you think?
2007-05-21 12:16:35 · 5 answers · asked by misyid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have to sympathize with you on this one because I am to one of the paranoid people in a relationship- I have been burned alot to make me that way- there's nothing wrong with being scared it's natural-but If he's never done anything to make you not trust him other than that-then just give it time, and try and give them the benefit of doubt- You start doubting his feelings or him too much and he wont like that and will probably bail on you- so just try and time will help, communication is a must and it's right up there with trust. K.
2007-05-21 12:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by cabbagepatchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me your too wrapped up in this man and have lost a good part of yourself confidence. Honesty a good question I have yet to meet a perfectly honest person.
Your focus seems to be on a perfect relationship rather than on the one your in. Life is not perfect. Men are definitely not perfect nor are women.
Here is what I think. Why are you dating a man who doesn't work? Why are you obsessing over a man?
How much time are you focusing on improving your life?
Are you happy in this situation? Can you controll his every action and if you could would you be happy?
I hope if you are honest and answer all these question you will have your own answer.
Best Wishes to you.
2007-05-21 19:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by MuseumGirl48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust has to be earned, he`s placed some doubt in your mind and now he has to get it back. It would help if he got a job, then you wouldn`t worry so much whilst your at work...or you could get rid of the computer/lock it or summat so he can only go on it when your there.
Good luck and hope you sort it.
2007-05-21 19:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by sexyma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because you will constantly be wondering what he is doing at all times and it will end up fighting with him, and just keep in mind it is the internet u can say and be anybody you want it is a make believe world on here for some people
2007-05-21 19:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by CORONA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he woz just chatting, you chatted to him under a alias name , its just a bit of fun, why dont you enjoy time with your boyfriend and stop making a problem out of nothing,
2007-05-21 22:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by trishie23@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋