me & my gf are supposed to be getting married but there are issues. she no longer wants to communicate when there is a prob. she sweeps it under the rug. she has 2 kids. they are 2 & 7. i have been repeatledly hit on lately & i have tried to be involved in their lives but they have said "i'm nt the father". they don't listen to me & when i tell her about it she seems as is she doesn't care. when she got her tax returns back in march & got $6000 back & blew the money. we were supposed to get our own place but that's on hold cust we don't have the money & i have medical issues & am trying to pay those bills while saving money. i feel like i'm backed in a corner with no answers. that's some of the probs. what should i do. try to work it out or leave.
2007-05-21 11:30:31 · 10 answers · asked by jack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, you need to iron out all these issues before marriage. Depending on the date, you need to push back the wedding. If it's far away, then hold off and work through your issues and hopefully you will get through them before the wedding. She needs to have her kids show you some respect, help save money for a house, and quit this talk about how you are not the father. Well her kids need to respect you as their other father, so they need to learn that you are now another authoritative figure. Please push back the date and iron this stuff out before marriage! It will end in divorce if you marry with all of these problems. Marriage does not make things easier, if anything, she will walk over you even more so than she is doing now.
2007-05-21 11:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by SillierKimmy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you mentioned you were being hit on which means you are starting to wonder if the grass is greener. When you are married, I usually say it isn't......however, this is the time to decide if you are not wanting to get married at all.
A blended family is even more of a challenge then "normal" ones and if she is going to not allow you to have say in the kids life, I see a miserable life ahead of you. Also, the blowing of the $6000.....that is a bunch of crap. When you are planning a life together, you share...compromise...and you have responsibilites. She sounds extremely selfish and I would tread carefully.....and get your deposit back.
2007-05-21 11:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is so important in a marriage and that needs to be handled before you enter into this marriage, entering a marriage with children from a previous relationship is hard but it has to be a united front when it comes to parenting, she needs to talk to this kids and explain how its going to be and not accept this behavior that has been going on......she seems to have no communication with anyone concerned and I would not marry her till everyone is on the same page.... good luck
2007-05-21 13:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she is just getting married for marriage sake for whatever reason. I dont think shes as much in love with you as she would like you to believe. Youd probably be better off without her so move on now before it really costs you. Good luck
2007-05-21 11:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not respecting you now, it will only get worse. Get out while the getting is good. She doesn't have the ability to make you happy. She sounds selfish and spoiled. Find yourself a girl who wants to make decisions that are the best for the two of you.
2007-05-21 12:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! It sounds like you have the makins of a REAL crappy relationship! Get out while the gettin is good!
2007-05-21 11:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by joeysdudes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew, luckily your not married and your able to "look into the future" for what your life will be like if you marry her.
Run, run now!!
2007-05-21 11:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Earl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave. If you don't rate number one at this time, you're a doormat.
2007-05-21 11:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by gromit801 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married.
2007-05-21 12:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Joreth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her immediately
try www.delhimarriagebureau.com or
www.themarriagecounsellor.com
2007-05-21 11:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋