2007-05-21 10:46:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BYE!
2007-05-21 10:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how long you guys have been together and what you want. If you are at the point where you want something very serious then I say you should not settle for anything less than that and run! However if u dont want anything serious then you both r on the same page and nothing more is expected. Whatever u do...do not stay with him in hopes to change his mind..only he will decide when he wants more of a commitment. Just remember do what is best for you..and DONT settle! Good luck.
2007-05-21 17:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily.
I was always afraid of committment....and I'm now happily married.
It's not really all that hard to *help* someone commit to you when they know you are 'the one'
If you are looking for marriage, and you REALLY don't think he's going to go for it....then maybe you should run.
BUT, there are MANY, MANY, MANY committment-phobs who get in relationship AND get married, lol.
I think sometimes men might use that as an excuse to have flings and not feel bad when the girl is more attached than he is....just a guess though.
If you really care about him, and you WANT a committment....you're just going to have to work with him. Show him that you care, show him that you are going to be there for him, and don't let him push you away. BUT, at the same time.....be prepared to have your heart-broken. There's only so much you can do..
Good luck.
2007-05-21 17:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by jezyka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Defintely run!!
He is already laying the foundation to run out and when he does, he won't be apologizing because he gets say so, " you only have yourself to blame , I told you so right from the get go."
If you value your heart and respect yourself, you will find the person who IS willing to respect and value those things as well and is willing to take that emotional journey with you.
Remember that, there is always someone waiting for you. By engaging with this person, you are entering into a contract for which you are already feeling cheated. It will only get worse if you get intimate
Simply thank him for his honesty and tell him you will love to be friends..and stay away from him till you are completely over.
PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE anyday
On the otherhand:
If you can handle a casual affair without getting emotionally involved (I am yet to meet any human who is capable of this) then go for it, but by asking the question above , you already proved you are looking for a lot more than casual
2007-05-21 18:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by MiaPocca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he is afraid of commitment. Is he afraid of sex? Does he like to play hide the pickle? Does he have you cook and clean for him and do his dirtly laundry? Perhaps you should re-examine your viewpoint toward commitment and kick his sorry a s s out and move forward and upward with your life. Run h e l l !!! Make him run, fast!!!!!
2007-05-21 18:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yay!!! an honest guy......not one that pretends he is not afraid of committment but keeps you hanging on. Good on you for finding this rare gem. Enjoy him, have fun, go out, do lots of fun stuff together.......then one day he might realise he loves you and isnt afraid anymore.
Good luck. He sounds like a keeper just for his honesty!!
Very refreshing.
2007-05-21 18:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont run away he can be your boy toy or just let it flow as it goes but try to make him like it by telling him all the good that is going to come out of it
2007-05-21 17:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by LiLi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how does he feel about you calling him your b/f?
Does that scare him?
How would he feel about you being with other guys, since he's afraid of commitment? I mean he shouldn't be concerned since he has commitment phobia.
2007-05-21 18:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its one lesson I've learned its if a guy says he doesn't want a committment (or is afraid of, same thing) take him at his word. There is a very, very small chance of him changing, at least with you.
2007-05-21 17:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being honest with you. That leaves him open to do whatever he wants to do (in other words he still considers himself to be single). If you open your heart up to him you will be setting yourself up for a heartbreak and you can't blame him because he's being honest with you from the start. If you want and expect more then you should "walk" away.
2007-05-21 17:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very fast and dont look back...
2007-05-21 18:12:58 · answer #11 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋