My cousin was a bit of a player/ flirt/jerk throughout highschool his only redeeming quality was he was protective of his family esp his sisters, mom, and niece.Then at age 18 his player habits caught up with him he got his ex.gf whom he as having a fling with pregnant while he had another gf whom he had been w/ a year. For some reason at 19 yrs of age after his son was born his whole personality seemed to change after his babys mama called him on his personality traits and was not going to let him see his son.Granted he is still a rude jerk but he has been with his babys mama for 3 yrs and their getting married next year.
Is it possible for a cheater to reform and fall in love?He is now 22 yrs old does not party.
2007-05-21 10:34:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is a very involved father and protective /caring / respectful with sons mom
2007-05-21 10:42:39 · update #1
I don't think so.
Once a cheater, Always a cheater.
I don't know why he's waiting a whole year to get married.
2007-05-21 10:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
They say once a cheater always a cheater
That isn't necessarily true
People cheat because they aren't happy.
If they are single - they are just looking to score as many times as they can because its a game to them
When you get older and people cheat - they are looking for either a friend they can rely on or someone they can fall in love with better than the one they are with
Look at how many women and men leave there partners for a more permanent relationship they can stay in
Look he is young, and could go back to being a cheater... what i don't understand is why is this bothering you.
Fingers crossed he has seen the light and grown up (especially for the children's sake)
2007-05-21 17:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can and do change. But that does not lock that person into "forever"! If he has turned around this much over the last couple of years, it sounds like his heart is in the right place. Every day we wake up, our life could take a big turn and we end up on a drastic route and we could get out of control. When this happens we tend to not care and give up. Just live within the moment and understand as of now, he is a changed man. He can only live one moment at a time, so let it go. :)
2007-05-21 17:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how the saying goes, 'once a cheater always a cheater', he may not cheat on her anymore but he'll still have the impulses too like when he sees a pretty woman he might wanna chase after her but will decide not to. When you have a baby with someone it really changes your life though. Maybe in a few years or something he might go back to his old ways since he already did that once, but maybe not. But in my opinion i dont think he will if he doesnt party and has stayed with her for 3 years.
have a good day :)
2007-05-21 17:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very possible. People do change. However, the tendency to revert back will always be present to some extent, it merely must be uncovered from within in order for it to happen again. The other party also knows the tendency to revert is always going to be there and must not let her guard down,but needs to give him some space as well. It's all going back to the trust issues. If you don't have trust within a relationship, then what do you have to start with?!
2007-05-21 17:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by lilbeamlover 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm I don't know. He is still 22 for Pete's sake.
Granted he is still rude? Hello just because he does not drink or do drugs does not mean he is a good father!
Baby Mama....I always laugh when I read that....shows me how old I am LOL!
2007-05-21 17:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course its possible. Age doesn't even have anything to do with it. It is a change in mindset. I went through that.. I cheated on my boyfriend and then I asked myself what I was doing that for.. it was just messing up the best thing that happened to me. Now I realize he is the only one I truly want because I came to my senses!
2007-05-21 17:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Niki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes anyone can change if they really want to. I'm so happy for him. Since he's a Dad now that may have given him more reason to change. GOD never gives up on us, so i don't think we should turn our backs on someone with a bad past. They have already gone thru alot to change. Prayer is my answer.
HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
STAR
2007-05-21 17:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by texasstar1974 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people have to make mistakes & go through tough times, to learn their lesson. People don't realize how good they have it and how much they really love their spouse until they cheat... It doesn't make it right, but I do believe people can change. If they choose & want too
2007-05-21 18:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All people can , do and will change. Imagine yourself acting in the same way you did 5-10 years ago?
2007-05-21 17:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by datingyoungincali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course players can change, it just means that they realized that what they were doing wasn't working. It can be hard but your cousin is an example of a cheater who has reformed.
2007-05-21 17:39:01 · answer #11 · answered by blahblah 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋