tell me what do u think?.... my husband won't go to church no more at all. all he talks about is tv and sex. he is now wanting to do things sexually in our marriage we never done before and i don't see him pray or read his word no more and i don't work, im home all day, so i do see. what do u think is going on with him. I am doing all i know how and i don't gripe and complain all day. I am a christian woman, saved and love the Lord and doing all i know how. I just wish i knew what was going on with him. I am not sure what it is... I try to talk to him but he won't talk. Tell me what do u think cyber world.
2007-05-21 10:34:16 · 14 answers · asked by reddishlady29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh yeah, the sex i give him is good now, so don't get that wrong and he is a minister, and i be wanting sex everyday, but it is something else going on and i just can't put my finger on it. I know it isnt the sex, cause i am a straight up freak in the bed LOL, he just don't seem the same and i don't know what it is...
2007-05-21 10:52:56 · update #1
Your values might not be the same as his now, but as long as you both respect and (at least try to) understand each other you should be fine.
In regards to sex. If he wants to try something different be glad he wants to try it with you... talk about it and try to please him if it is something you would be willing to do.
2007-05-21 10:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Karla T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think not going to church or not being very religious is a big problem. But, talking more about the worldly things which makes you embarrassed is definitely a problem and I think you love him very much. So, take him to a pschychologist let him speak out his feelings about various matters which are troubling you and if possible take him to a good yoga center and let him practise some yoga daily. It may change his mind. May be he was vexed with all the misuse of religion by the minister in a church. Be practical now a days you can't even find a minister who is very religious. I think it's your problem that he is not upto your interest in religious matter but it's not his problem of not being religious. God never wants us to pray him he wants us to keep our hearts pure and sacred so that he can live in there.
2007-05-21 17:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by rashmir 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like sex has got his attention.
Help him keep it home, dear. Don't make the mistake of letting someone else teach him now. Listen when he talks. He's telling you what he likes. You are his fantasy woman. Put on something sexy and your makeup after your shower at night. Indulge him.
Sex is how God intended man and woman to express their joy with each other. Your man sounds like he's quite joyous right now. Having great sex with your husband doesn't make you less Christian or less saved. Revel in the gift only God can give you....your union with your husband.
2007-05-21 17:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have married a Minister. Not all men are into praying and reading the bible. You can pray to the Lord all you like but a man loves sex and even the Lord cant help them with that one.
2007-05-21 17:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is church these days except a place where people go to be brainwashed and follow mindlessly whatever the person at the front says.
Ask yourself....are you married to a man or a church? Who are you devoted to?
Don't try too hard to figure this one out. Because it sounds like you'd be happier as a nun than as a wife.
2007-05-21 17:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's trying to spice things up in your love life and you're ruining it! As far as him not going to church that's his choice. You took vows to honor and cherish him no matter what. Not only if he goes to church when you say. Stop being such a prude and open up sexually with him.
2007-05-21 17:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well sounds like he is rebelling..like a kid. Dont let him bring you down with him. you can't make anyone want God in their life. I say please your hubby in the bed because that is your duty as a wife, but mybe try and ask him whats going on. and always pray that seems to work for me.
2007-05-21 17:43:12 · answer #7 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're imposing religion on him. You sound fundamental. You should probably do what the Lord says---obey your man.
2007-05-21 17:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by Cloee Quips 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to talk to him. Have you asked him if he still has any interest in spiritual things? Have you asked him why? Communication is your only hope. We can't help you.
2007-05-21 17:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Bob the Builder 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People are a mystery unto themselves.
Its hard enough to understand ourselves and you want to understand another.
Just accept him for who he is.
2007-05-21 17:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋