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I like someone but not sure if he's straight or gay. One time I thought I say him staring at my breast, but when he talks he sounds so gay. How can you really tell if someone is gay? I wouldn't want to ask him and embarass him or myself.

2007-05-21 10:14:04 · 24 answers · asked by Heaven26 3 in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

24 answers

yes myself.
i sound very gay but am as straight as the next man
i think the only solution is to ask him.
Make sure that is in a nice quiet place so he doesn't get to embarrassed and just bring the question up as if is a throw away question.
I bet he has been asked may times and he really wont care that much.
Hope it helps

2007-05-21 23:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by wizard_man130 2 · 1 0

Oh, yeah, there's lots of that. Poor guys who got stuck with some wimpy or squeaky voice and caught grief from it all the time when they were in school. I've known some because they were in the same egg-head crowd I often was in. When I was in high school and slightly before, there were the limp-wristed types who hit me up for some interest, but I wasn't homosexual. One of the flags that several pointed to was some of the company I kept. We used to call them effeminent, and they weren't gay (although some effeminent distinctly were).

How to tell? Talk about the subject, ask the other person how they feel, what their flavor is (in confidence, of course--and keep it that way). If they are, and want you to know, they will tell you. With all the 'coming out' conversation around this forum, there's piles of them just dying to tell it.

2007-05-21 11:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0 0

yes, I have known straight guys that sounded and looked gay and vice versa. If embarrassed to ask right out then try to ask about past relationships. If you like him tell him and he will either tell you if he is gay or give you a run around.

2007-05-21 10:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by AliBaba 6 · 0 0

No but I've known a gay guy that sounded straight

2007-05-21 10:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

Sounding 'gay' does not mean a person is gay! Many straight people ca be very 'camp' just as many gay people look and sound perfectly 'normal' (sorry to use that word - I hate it!). I am gay and not many people realise it from my exterior appearance. Same goes for Nick! Remember - don't judge a book by its cover!

Mike

2007-05-22 00:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by mike4nick 3 · 1 0

you're able to spend extra time in his enterprise fairly in case you're actually not keen to ask him immediately out (Geddit...immediately...) jokes aside, he could be or he won't be yet in my adventure haviing long previous out with somebody like this and asked him quite a few cases if he replaced into bi or immediately he denied it completely he replaced into sturdy enuff in the mattress room branch if slightly on the egocentric edge yet I nonetheless think of to on the instant time he's gay yet is in denial, he acts way too camp has a difficulty with drugs and cant face any dissatisfied or turmoil in his or all people elses existence, he's slightly a basket case to be uncomplicated I havent considered him for slightly yet as quickly as I do i nonetheless assume him at some point to assert "you have been appropriate i purely could'nt settle for i replaced into gay. You dont sound as in case you comprehend this guy ok yet, if i've got been you i could see what he replaced into like in freindly environment formerly i made the flow to get extra close, see if his acquaintances drop any tricks that he's gay. if he's he could nonetheless have stumbled on you captivating!! a number of them swing you comprehend!

2016-10-05 12:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

yes i know a straight guy who sounds really fem. there are plenty of straight guys that sound and act really fem, but they aren't gay. the only way to find out the truth is to ask him. it might be embarassing but hey when isnt life embarassing? just ask him.

2007-05-21 11:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by choux pastry heart 5 · 1 0

Oh yeah, I definitely know someone at work who sounds and even looks gay. But, he definitely can hit it on big time with the ladies and I wouldn't even say that he looks androgynous. He is such a ladies's man.

2007-05-21 18:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Eric 3 · 0 0

Speech is a poor way to determine somebody's sexuality. (But there are exceptions to this rule which cry 'oh my G*d he / she is really gay & proud).

I have been told / accused of being gay in the past, as I speak very clearly, with an accent that is hard to place. This is utter nonsense, as some people simply have to 'place' you in their small minds by accent.

If in doubt, ask.

2007-05-21 10:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anyone know? 2 · 2 0

Well... yes... where I live... the gay Mecca (aka- San Francisco) we have this saying among my friends "Gay until proved straight!".

But you really can't tell... don't assume... because you know what they say about those who assume! ;-) Just ask a little about him.... heck... if you are bold... just ask him... "you do like women... right?"

Good luck!

2007-05-21 10:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by Amelia M 2 · 0 0

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