Guys: What do you generally think if the person you start seeing is friends with an ex - and they hang out??

Question

please post honestly

Answer 1

I dont think its right. Let the past be the past. Why worry the person who your in a relationship with now. They should have more respect then that.

Answer 2

Wait. Friends with THEIR ex, or YOUR ex?

If you mean THEIR ex, then it depends on how close they are and what the nature of their relationship was and how they broke up and how long they were together. Generally speaking, it is probably not a good idea.

If you mean YOUR ex, all the above holds true, except it would depend on how close YOU were and how long YOU were together, etc. etc.

Ultimately, both situations kind of suck. There is a higher chance that it will not work out than if the person you are seeing is NOT friends with an ex. That's a fact, though it does not necessarily mean you won't be an exception. Good luck!

Answer 3

I am in that "pickle' right now.
I was still talking (go to a concert now and then) with my ex until last week. We were best friends for 4 years then dated for 6. So i've known him for 11 years and i will always love him as a person. When I met him, he was still friends with his ex, and i completely respected that. It shows maturity in my opinion.
I've just recently started dating someone new and I am not sure how to handle it. I don't think the ex is ready for this reality yet, and I am not ready to tell the new guy about my ex yet! I dont want to lose contact with him forever, and i dont think i should have to. i am trustworthy and would never cheat. So make certain your new guy knows that
Let me know what you decide to do! I need advice too!

Answer 4

I don't care how secure a guy is, there are very few of us out there that would be OK with it, even if we say we are. Hanging out with an ex (especially if feelings are still involved) is just putting you in a position that something might happen, even if you aren't planning on it. And typically, if an ex is still wanting to hang around, it is for a backup plan when he isn't getting any somewhere else. Just an opinion based on my experiences (from both sides).

Answer 5

I personally think that when in a relationship, you should not be friends with a EX. Honestly, would you like to see your husband/girlfriend hang out with someone they were sleeping with?

Answer 6

If it's a guy hangin out with his ex - one of two things are happening. 1. good friends and only split on grounds of differing lifestyle (one moves away or just agree can't live with each other) 2. they split but he still thinks there may be a chance to hold on to something in an old relationship. (sex is a prime thing, I know cos I did it for a while with my ex. Had to get over it and concentrate on my current relationship. best thing i did)

Advice: Let him carry on with friendship/relationship with ex. If he does somit wrong or steps out of line, he's not worth a dam. If they really are just friends, you may have gained someone for him to moan at instead of you.

Hope this helps

Answer 7

well its never good. because how often do you have couples that break up and they HONESTLY both know/understand they will never be together again??? its very unlikely. theres always one of the two that still has some KIND of feelings.

Answer 8

No boyfriend of mine is going to be friends with his ex.....so as you see, I wouldn't go for that relationship. If he wants to be with me he has to be open to letting go of his past (his ex)

Answer 9

than i i say she much tryin to get him back and than again his ex don't want him going out with other woman.or they just might be catckin up on old time

Answer 10

i think this is probably a person i wouldn't get involved w/. It kind of depends thou. Every situation is different.