Why is it hard for me to speak my mind????

Question

Do you have the same prob?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Fortunately, no. Many people are reluctant to say what they believe because they do not want to confront those who disagree. Some of them might have been your friends until they found out you are that sort of different.

I speak my mind because I find being quiet when I disagree too much like acquiescence. This is especially true when someone makes a rude joke or otherwise says something I find morally reprehensible. After all, if I say nothing when they make racial or sexist slurs, they probably do assume I agree with them.

No, I'm afraid I go too far the other way. I need to restrain myself when the circumstances do not imply my acquiescence, as when someone is talking to another person, and not to me. On a bus or in a restaurant, for example. I'm learning, but there have been times when I have said aloud, "How rude!" and caused a scene as a result.

Answer 3

We are talk about what rubbish soaps are, but if you ever watched coronation street when Clare first came on the scene she was like a timid dormouse. She would not speak her mind. It was only when she realised that she had something worth fighting for that she became more assertive and came out of her shell completely.

She like you was loathed to upset anyone.

You do not have to lose your temper to be assertive just take time to speak slowly and clearly and make sure people are listening to what YOU have to say so that you can put your point across.

Maybe you think you are inferior to other people you know well if so get those thoughts out of your head.

I would recommend that you either book yourself onto an assertiveness or buy one of the many books available on the subject these days.

All the best and remember 'He who dares wins'

Ps TIp when speaking to someone body langauge and eye contact are of prime importance.

Answer 4

I always had a problem standing up for myself and speaking my mind when I was younger. Now I am brilliant at it. I learnt that you just get walked all over if you keep things bottled up and one day I just had enough. No one can acuse me of talking behind anyones' back because I will just say it to them. What you see is what you get with me and the people I know the best love me for it. Just remember to be respectful there is a difference between speaking your mind and being nasty and difficult for the sake of it. xx

Answer 5

Maybe you are just a nice but shy person who does'nt want to offend people! If it is a self esteem matter though,practice in front of the mirror until you feel confident to do it in public/wherever and see how you go. I used to be like it until I realised that nobody else was going to kill me for having an opinion and expressing it. Always remember though,that words can hurt and cannot be taken back once spoken,so pick them with care and thought.

Answer 6

Because you cringe every time you go to read the answers knowing that there will probably be comments from bashers and haters or people who judge you that are unwarranted.

Speak away and try not to let them bother you. I understand though, I have the same problem. It was easy for me in the beginning, but as time has gone on it is getting harder and harder for me to blatantly speak my mind as the comments can be really harsh.

Answer 7

You may be afraid of what other people think of you. You may be a little shy or selfconscious, try changing this little by little, take a small step each day, speak out to really close friends and family, then to workmates (or school mates if you're young. Eventually you will get used to speaking your mind and it won't seem as daunting :-)

Answer 8

Are you afraid that if you do speak your mind others might not like you?
I used to be that way until I finally did speak my mind. It felt so good that I've never stopped.

Answer 9

It's hard for me to speak to people but when its expressing my opinions or feelings - I have no trouble. Don't speak you're mind to much - it could get you into trouble!

Answer 10

simply because you dont want to offend abyone. its not a bad thing unless your getting continuously screwed over in which case you need to stop caring what other ppl think and let rip! i used to have the same problem until ppl started treating me as a doormat then eventually snapped and havnt looked back. as long as your not rude about it then its shouldnt be a problem.

Answer 11

Because you're a coward who's afraid of hurting people's feelings. I don't have that problem. I'm tactful, but I will tell someone when something is on my mind.

Sorry for the frigid honesty.