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I've grown too dependable on my boyfriend, that I get affected by little things that he does. I'm a very jealous person, so I tend to think each of his close encounters with girls were very uncalled for. I realized I keep feeling this way, and the only cure for this is to learn not to care. How can I feel like a strong woman? Feminist powers??? I feel sad for myself because he doesn't even think any of his gestures are wrong, yet I'm so affected by it inside. Please, help. How do I stop being dependable on him emotionally? I'm sick of being jealous.

Answer 1

I'm sorry.. I know I'm not female.. but I have been on the other side of your story.. the guy in a similar position.. it's something most people experience at some point in their life in a relationship.. many in multiple relationships. in the end you have to learn to be a little more independent. start doing things for you. go play a sport or go out with the girls. go to a movie with some friends. live your life the way you would if he wasn't a part of it.. and just be thankful for the fact that he is and that you get to spend some time together.. threw this you will start to find your own strength and become the type of women that makes weak men tremble.. but it takes time and life to get there.. don't try to rush it..

I wish you luck.

Answer 2

I agree, spending some time doing what you want to do without him would be a good start, and healthy for both of you. But also, if you want your relationship to work, you need to be able to talk to each other and understand how the other feels when you do something. It's very important to communicate!

For example, if you are out and he does something that annoys you and you get snappy over it - he won't necessarily know why and think you are just grumpy, leading to a possible argument or further hurt feelings. If he knew that it affect you, the after effects may be improved, but make sure you use non-accusing language, such as "when you do , it makes me feel " so you are making sure it is how you feel and what he is doing is not necessarily intentional or aimed at hurting you. But in order to regain your independance you need to get out with your friends and take up something that you will do regularly without him, such as a sport or art.

Answer 3

I know this sounds hard but maybe you need time to be by yourself and not in a relationship if this is bothering you. I think you need to remain friends but you need to take big steps that hurt at first but you will learn to get over it. What if he left yuo for you acting the way you do..but if he loves you he won't but you never know. just learn to deal with it and be a grown women if not then people can use you and take advantage.

Answer 4

spend some time alone and get to know yourself. I know that sounds stupid, but its true.