i'm 17 years old and i've been molested and raped before, but that was at least 2 years ago, and i've been having a long dist relationship with a guy the same age as me for 4 months now. Well, you know how you Q if the person your with is cheating or not well i have been asking him like almost every month now and i know deep inside that he's telling the truth, but i alway feel sad inside. and i just lost it on saturday, i mean i was mad lets just say i was very emotional, but um, everything is fine between me and my bf, but today i'm upset because we found out yesturday that my grandpa's wife died on saturday on her 90 b-day. but, is it normal for a girl that has been through all of this be sad/basicly depressed almost all the time? even though she trys to be happy?
2007-05-21 07:46:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, it is. But sometimes we take our problems out on the wrong person, in your case it is your boyfriend. Just remember it is not his fault that all these atrocities happened/happens. Sometimes as humans we try to encoroparate every sad thing that happens as a part of our lives, such as your grandpas wife dying. She was old just remember that, death is inevitable, don't feel sad, it is just a natural process of life. Sometimes things happen in our lives but it is important to remember you will get through it, with the grace of God. Remember we cannot be down forever and we cannot be on top forever. Just look at the great/good things about live, such as waking up everyday, learning, living and growing. Smile even when you are sad, a smile is a wonderful thing. Tell the people you love and appreciate how much you really care about them, sometimes we think they should automatically know this but they don't, if you do not tell them. Tell your boyfriend how great he is for listening to your problems and being so supportive, you will see the smile you bring to his face. So don't worry better will come, do not live in your past because if you do you will never be able to move on. We learn, grow and overcome from our past and experiences. Stay strong, God loves you, think positive and smile a bit.
I hope I was able to help at least a little bit.
Simone
2007-05-21 08:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel unsure of people once you've been violated. Being in a long distance relationship only complicates feelings of insecurity. Not being able to actually know if the person to whom you have put faith in, is true to their word is a huge leap of trust. You must take baby steps in the whole trust issue and do not give yourself or your heart away without first knowing the truth.
2007-05-21 15:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bugz829 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 17 was put in a akward situation 3 years ago, im in the esact same situation babes n im the same and we're both fine 2 just he is gettin fed up of the accusations i just cant seem 2 believe it altho i know deep down hes honest n faithful. i dont know wat it is and i deff didnt think ne 1 else was like it feel free 2 contact me if u want
i know i havent helped but maybe it will help u c others end in the same situations
2007-05-21 15:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by blossom princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can be normal.
What is normal, anyway? What's nrmal for one person is different for another. You probably have a lot of issues that haven't been dealt with concerning your past, and that can be upsetting, and leave you volatile emotionally.
If you're not comfortable with it, then it's not normal for you, and that's what's important. It never hurts to talk with someone about it.
2007-05-21 14:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by KRIEGAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋