When I went to my doctors appointment he had to stick that clamp like thingy in me that was fine and all until he had to stick his finger in me the thing that made me kinda feel uncomforatable is before he did that he looked up at me and said now this is the really embarrassing part good thing I have small fingers. I was like wtf
2007-05-21 07:24:46 · 36 answers · asked by ?????? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh I didn't tell you the mean part ok he asked me when my last period was I told him and then he asked me if there was a time I didn't use a condom I said no this jerk rolled his eyes I used an f-ing condom all the time
2007-05-21 07:26:46 · update #1
It was a pap to see how far along i was for sure. there was a nurse in there thank god. The nurse made me feel super comfortable she is so nice.
2007-05-21 07:35:17 · update #2
Sounds like he was just trying to lighten the mood. It's normal for him to stick a finger in you, I think he said that because he realizes that that part's embarassing for most women. I think the comment about the size of his fingers is because he's probably heard it can be really uncomfortable, so it really IS a good thing he didn't have big hands.
It sounds harmless. You can call him and discuss it with him (ask him what he meant by it), cause in his mind, he probably thought he was just easing the tension. But he should be aware it came across as inappropriate. Tell him how it made you feel. If you're still uncomfortable, change doctors. You shouldn't be examined by someone you don't feel comfortable with.
2007-05-21 07:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For Rita, don't ever tell another woman to lighten up if she feels uncomfortable!! It's aleady not a pleasant experience to have to deal with a gynecologist already. Don't be so rude!
Each woman is different in the way they percieve things. Some people are correct in that the doctor may have been trying to lighten the mood. Or he could have been completely out of line also. Either way, I would not continue seeing this doctor. Ask your friends who they see and if they are comfortable. The way I found my current gynecologist is I went to my local pharmacy and I outright asked, of all the ob/gyn's that you guys deal with, who is the most responsive to your phone calls/requests/requests of patients. They gave me a name and I looked him up. Now I love him. Sometimes you have to go through a few doctors to feel comfortable. And also, I agree that wherever you go, if its a guy, request a nurse be in the room during the exam. It should be automatic, but if it isn't request it. Even better yet, try to find a female doctor-maybe that will make you most comfortable.
Good luck in your search.
2007-05-21 07:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by Des 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then honey if he makes you that uncomforable then i would be finding a new doctor was there a nurse in there when he done this by law there is suppose to be a female nurse with him at all times when he is doing this type of exam if not then i would call the labor bored on him or talk to someone at the hpsital and find out what you can do tell him what he done and what he sayed and see if you now of any other girls he has done this to and get them to come forth with there story but i would also reported it to the law and see if anyone else has made complaints but i would not under no way go back to him i would find a new docotr
2007-05-21 07:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by mammabear_327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of doctors are in it for the money. They just don't have passion for what they are doing. You should find another doctor. I know how you feel. My doctor is great but I have to go to another doctor to do my blood work. I told him I hated getting my blood drawn. He said "well you should of thought about that when you were getting knocked up." Than he garbs my hand and says " I see you are not married." Which I am and have been for 3 years. He didn't believe me because I didn't have my ring on. i was getting it sized because it was a little tight on me. It's life I guess some people are just asses and think they are better. Just change doctors and don't slip to their level.
2007-05-21 07:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by jakesbell87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds totally unprofessional. Do you really want to deal w/this doctor for the next several months and then give him the honor of delivering your baby?
I'd find another doctor, like, today. I'd also make it crystal clear as to WHY you are switching doctors, pointing out examples. My advice would be to type it in a letter, and cc: the medical licensure board as well as the medical practice he works for; that way he will SEE and KNOW all the different people who will be reading that letter.
What an unprofessional @sshole.
2007-05-21 07:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, hun...he wasn't being mean...that is a very typical question coming from a doctor. Not all people use condoms, which could lead to pregnancy & disease...how is he supposed to know what to examine you for if he doesn't know your history??
a gynecologist HAS to ask questions like that, granted they seem very personal and invasive - but this is your reproductive heath he is concerned about - it wasn't a judgement of you.
as far as the fingers thing - A LOT of women are very tense when it comes to the anal exam...it was his way of lightening the mood and relaxing you by making a joke...most doctors do something similar or at least warn you.
2007-05-21 07:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart. You don't have to put up with this kind of treatment from anyone.
Was a nurse in the room during the exam? Most state require it. If only to protect the doctor from allegation.
The doctor works for you! If he doesn't treat you right, find a different one.
2007-05-21 07:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always request that the doctor have a nurse or staff member in the room during internal exams, or bring a friend or family member. He was probably just trying to break the tension, as it is embrarassing for him to have to do that procedure......if you are really uncomfortable, go to a different doctor for your pap! (local birth control clinics will usually do it for free, and are very nice)
2007-05-21 07:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by vega_five 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has to ask those questions? That's why he rolled them he is embarassed. I would be sticking my finger to see over the clamp inside a pregnant lady. Good luck Mama.
2007-05-21 07:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Tim O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you ever go back to this jerk? Get a referral to an ObGyn that has some respect for women, unlike Dr. Cro Magnon. I go to a woman...I would suggest you do the same.
2007-05-21 07:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by J J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋