Am I the only female that thinks men get a raw deal?

Question

I was married to a great man who took care of my daughter (wasn't his, but loved her as his own, and pays support for her on his own accord, I've asked for nothing) we grew apart and now I am married to a man that has a harpie for an ex girlfriend who has 2 children. Even though they are not his, the laws in Canada makes him pay child support. The amount you can't even believe!!! I feel horrible for any young man that gets involved with a woman who has children, and in this day in age it almost seems impossible.

Answer 1

Well power to you for being open-minded. Yes I would say men do get the raw deal. Especially in our politically correct society that we live in today it's amazing that such bias is prevlant in society as well as in the law. That's defiently BS about paying child support for a child who is not yours, unless of course if you chose to do so. Not to mention the law favors the mother for alimony, custody, basically just about everything with a divorce. While I agree in most cases the mother may be the better choice, realize I have seen numerous cases to argue different. Women manipulate the situation and use their children as a way to get back at their ex-spouse. Nothing could be stupider yes you're hurting your ex, but you're also hurting your children in the process.

Answer 2

That is so wrong, I feel all men that have to go through stuff like that. My boyfriend has a child with his ex and when she found out she was pregnant she shut him down. Three mouths after they started to see each other she got pregnant and want nothing to do with him. She ask for a lot for child support. Some time I thing there are women that get pregnant on purpose to get there men or the get their money. We live in a sad world that there are people like this.

Answer 3

No you are not. They really do. Especially in the cases when they can't see their kids and they have to pay a lot of money. I know a couple, who got divorced after 10 years of marriage because she was cheating on him. He was begging her to stop doing that, he wanted a normal marriage and he wanted 100% to forgive her. She said yes but he caught her with her lover boy a few days later. Again he was determined to forgive her until he was fed up with it. They have three wonderful kids and he is ready to do anything for them. But the problem was that she asked more and more (he's quite wealthy). While being married to him she got used to rich life why stop now? Although he remarried and has a two -year-old baby boy, he still has a lot of problems with her because she wants more money and if he doesn't give she blackmails him with kids.
Of course I can't generalize this, because There are also wonderful women who would never think of doing this. All my respect to them

Answer 4

The US also has similiar laws.
Its all in an effort to do what is best for the child.
There are men who have to pay child support for children that weren't their just because lived with a woman who had kids.

Answer 5

No, I'm with you, that's weird that he has to pay support for kids that aren't his in the first place. I think here, though, you only pay for kids that are yours (but I don't know, thankfully, I haven't been divorced, but came very close once). I don't think good dads get a fair deal usually. I mean, they only get to see their kids like every other weekend. I think adjustments should be made to allow for more equality in parenting time for dads. Plus, it seems like court-ordered support is often outrageous. Yeah, kids are expensive, but they're not THAT expensive. My buddy pays 1300/month for two kids and he has them at least 3 nights every week! It's not that he doesn't like having them that much, but if he has them half the time anyway, he's already paying half of their living expenses. So his ex-wife pockets the extra, not fair.

Answer 6

He needs to move from Canada. Run! That is a stupid law, cuz they are not his children. Damm, here in the US we can't even get the real daddys to pay. I'm growing apart from my man also, but I honestly could'nt do any better. I have to make it work or emagine myself with another who will never treat me better. By the way that other woman has no shame cuz she should support her own kids.

Answer 7

First of all don't categorize us all together. I am nothing like that harpie and would never ask any man to pay for my child if he was not the father. Even if he was I still wouldn't ask for child support as long as the kids are spending half the time with him.

Answer 8

actually it's the women who get the raw deal, they're the ones who are raising the kids, feeding them, taxi mom, supporting them, caring for them, teaching them, and much more, while men only have to hand over the $ and do nothing else if they don't want to. Who gets up when they cry at night, need reasuring, or when they're sick help them. He doesn't have to talk to his ex he just has to pay her. If he wants to see the kids then make arrangements but don't take her calls otherwise.

Answer 9

There are quite a few causes. adult men getting the raw deal is one, the different is that some women people have intense criteria and evaluate purely a small pool of adult men and there arent adequate lians to carry onto for anybody ^.^ . Sooo women anybody is elevating their criteria with even a lot less adult men prepared to marry.

Answer 10

No I feel the same way.I am with a wonderful man who pays child support on his kids he can't even see them.The court system will do nothing to help him.The second he stops paying what she wants he goes to jail.I think it's stupid.What happened to emotional and physical support.It's all about money these days.