My husband wants a divorce. I recently fell into a depression and now I am doing better. During that time, we were fighting and I explained to him about my depression. He says he forgave me but he will always use how I treated him during my depression against me in the future. He wants a divorce. He had a abusive childhood and was married prior for 12 years to a woman who constantly cheated on him. Trying to understand why this is happening but I just can't seem to grasp it. We were having financial difficulties and I didn't have a job because I lost mine so I did everything I could to keep us afloat. I cashed CD's and bonds but nothing is good enough it seems. He still wants to divorce. Please help!!!!! He says he loves me and I know I love him but what the heck is he thinking?
2007-05-21 07:06:17 · 12 answers · asked by Jennifer G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him go honey if its meant to be he will come back. It sounds like he has his own issues that he needs to sort out and if he sorts them out he will prolly be back
2007-05-21 07:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by superthunda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it seems like you screwed up your marriage and finances and now want to use "depression" as an EXCUSE! While I fully believe that mental illness is a real issue with some people it is NEVER a excuse to hurt others. I think your husband is right to leave. Maybe you'll make sure to treat your depression and treat your next man with more respect.
Good luck!
2007-05-21 07:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jennifer,
Why don't the two of you get together with a group of Non-Denominational Christians and begin a Bible Study. I would be glad to assist you in finding a group near you if you are unable to do so. A non-Denominational group should follow only the Bible and not a set of man-made doctrines. It sounds like you have nothing to lose. I would be glad to assist if you email me. Have a great day and a wonderful week. Hopefully things will get better for you.
Thanks,
Eds
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2007-05-21 07:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically, Jennifer, I think you should play on his sympathy. That and your should get a job. Ask him, big eyed and tearful, if he is really going to leave you after you just got over your depression. Then surprise him by going out and finding a job. Any job. It is amazing how many marriages are fixed once the money problems are taken care of. Good luck to you. And let us know what happens.
2007-05-21 07:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's tired, fed up and has no desire to risk another episode of fighting. He had 12 years of that crap and can't take any more.
All marriages go through hard times, illness, financial problems- you had no right to abuse him due to your depression and he's had enough.
2007-05-21 07:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jennifer G,
My answer is that you had better read Save My Marriage Today written by Amy Waterman first( http://save-the-marriage.info ).I believe that you can solve your problems after reading that book.
Good luck!
2007-05-21 23:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was able to see what you are willing to do to him when you have a good enough excuse.
People can be very cruel and once you see that side of a person it doesn't always go away.
2007-05-21 07:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to forgive you, he doesn't trust you, give him some space. Write him a letter and tell him how you feel. He needs to be more empathetic to your situation. Suggest marriage counseling.
2007-05-21 07:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't trust women it seems to him that every woman he comes in contact with has some sort of problem and he doesn't want to deal with it
2007-05-21 07:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems and sounds like he just wants out. Let him go!
2007-05-21 07:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋