My bf and I have been together for 10 yrs. Can anyone give me one good convincing reason to get married?

Question

We get along very well and we always have..we also have an 8 year old son. It's not that neither one of us wants to be married. It's just since everything is fine the way it is..I thought I would throw this out there and see if I could find just 1 outstanding reason to do it.

Answer 1

sounds like 10 years wasted. should have been married along time ago

Answer 2

No one can convince you anything. You need to convince yourself. If you want some convincing though, I will try.
I got married at a young age ( 18 ) and to a young guy ( 19 ) after just knowing each other for 5 months. We have been married for about over a year now and it's the most amazing experience you can ever feel.
I love living with him, I love being his best friend, and I love being there for him.

If you aren't comfortable to get married yet, then wait until you're ready. If you don't like the fact you have to get legalized in doing it , then you can look into common law marriage until youre ready for Legalized marriage.

For the longest time I told myself I would never get married but will stay forever with someone i love, but whats the point? Have a wedding , enjoy your life with him. It will turn out for the best.

Also when filling out tax forms, marriage is a lot cheaper than stating your single!

Answer 3

You may be married already and not know it.
Marriage does change the dynamics of a relationship in inexplicable ways. Many marriages after lengthy "dating" periods like yours, end quickly in divorce. You should get married if either of your consciences feels violated, which doesn't seem likely.
As previously stated, you should check with a lawyer in your area and have some estate planning, living will, and other documents drawn up to protect your interests if incapacitated or dead. You want to protect your kids and property from probate.
Some cultures would consider you married already. Your state may consider you in a common law marriage.

Answer 4

If you've been together for 10 solid, good years, then I'd say you already have commitment - more so than many MANY people who decide to get married ever have. Most people get married so they can have a wedding. Being together for 10 years, sharing life and facing challenges together is far more important than having a document that says the government recognizes your relationship.

Answer 5

Well, if you are old enough and ready to make the commitment of an everlasting bond go for it. If you have been together for 10 years you two are probably compatible and will your relationship will most likely last. Don't try and rush into anything. Make sure he is ready too. My parents have been together for 17 years and still aren't married. Trying to rush each other into such an important commitment is a real relationship killer.
GOOD LUCK!!! :)

Answer 6

Honey, he will ask you to marry him when he wants to, if you keep pushing the issue, then you are pushing him farther away from you.

I want you to think about this, I had a friend, who was dating this guy for ten years, and the reason why is because she thought that one day he would pop the question, so on the tenth year, she asked him, and he said he had no plans to marry her.

They broke up, and then she found another man who wanted to get married also.

If he is stringing you along then maby it is time you really have a heart to heart talk about where your relationship is going.

Answer 7

In today's society, it's becoming increasingly common for people to be live-in partners, than than marrying. If your relationship is good as it is, why change anything about it by marrying? If marriage would change anything at all between you, you should consider that this could be a bad thing, especially if you have been together for 10 years.

Answer 8

If you have to ask fora good reason, then don't do it. Marriage is not a question. Its about love and compatability.. Do you two get along? love eachother? Does your relationship work for you two? Trust?? These are some questions you can ask yourself..Can you imagine yourself without ths person 10 years later? You shouldnt need convincing as if you should get married.. Do what your heart says...

Answer 9

Do you WANT to get married? Or does he? If you are not religious, there is no other reason to get married than the legal aspects of your relationship, simply to ensure your partner's security in the event of something happeneing to either. Also, people marry to protect themselves financially. Now if you love each other and want to make the relationship more secure you can. If you are BOTH already comfortable with how things are then don't marry simply for he heck of it. I wish you guys luck and continued success in your relationship.

Answer 10

I can completely understand not wanting to get married. If you are both happy now, why mess with a good thing? The only reason I can think of, as superficial as it is, is for medical, financial, etc. benefits. Right now, if one of you were to be in the hospital, the other would not have "spouse" visitation rights.

This seems to be a heterosexual relationship, but look at this link: http://gaylife.about.com/od/samesexmarriage/a/benefits.htm
It lists benefits afforded to married couples but not people who have been in long-term relationships.

Answer 11

Honey, after 10 years, if either of you have to be "convinced".... You are not ready for that level of committment... (I don't think)...

If its meant to be and you BOTH want to get married, then just do it, but if you are not both 100% invested, then don't do it. You don't necessarily have to break up or anything like that, but marriage is a HUGE deal and not worth the trouble it could cause later if you are not sure!