I am wondering whether the crux of the issue is age, or if it is the teacher's abuse of authority. Of course both are wrong, but if a 17 year old boy found a way to date a 24 year old woman outside of school, with no other connection to one another except a mutual attraction, would that relationship be ostracized equally harshly?
What are your thoughts?
2007-05-21 07:04:04 · 11 answers · asked by not yet 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
What if the genders were reversed, and it was a 17 or 18 year old female student dating a 24 year old male teacher?
2007-05-21 07:05:39 · update #1
I believe that the problem goes beyond the teacher's abuse of authority. Teachers are trusted to educate and nurture. They are also mandated, by law, to protect their students. When the teacher is the one violating or corrupting the students, it constitutes a major violation of that trust. That is why it raises such a huge concern.
2007-05-21 14:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lilly One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The standard reaction has to do with the abuse of authority exhibited by the teacher...male or female. It is presumed that they have some kind of 'control' over the student, intellectually and emotionally - as they are the authoritative figure.
Its an interesting notion...to examine the situation without the confines of the teacher/student relationship. If there is an underage participant, the adult could still face the legal consequences...but the public's reaction, in my opinion, would be less severe. And really...the instances of this happening today are far more frequent these days. What with girls looking the way they do and the advanced sexual experiences at earlier ages, I think we would find many instances of a 24 year old male with 17 year old girls...
2007-05-21 07:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Authority is MAJOR.
A man/ woman with the credentials to be an educator has had the training and ethics classes required by the school district. The teacher is paid by the students family (form of private schooling or taxes).
As an authority, what is her message of teaching by breaking the rules and having sex? IF there really is a possibility of a relationship forming, then the teacher should have the patience to wait until the student has advanced from their teaching, and reached the age of consent.
2007-05-21 10:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is more an abuse of authority when you're discussing student-teacher affairs. There was one pervy english teacher in my high school who dated several of the 18-year-old senior girls, and it was disgusting. He wasn't exactly a recent college grad, either - it didn't seem like a "relationship" was really the goal. The girls adored the attention for a few weeks, he slept with them, and then he moved on. The young women may have been old enough to "consent", but the pressure of having a person in a position of power asking to date you is innapropriate.
Once a young person is at the age of consent, his or her parents must simply hope that they have developed good sense when it comes to finding a partner. As long as there is no issue of a power-based relationship, I think that people should date who they want. If parents or friends object, they should handle it in the normal way of expressing their feelings to the person involved, not by trying to sue.
2007-05-21 07:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Junie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes, there can be no equality here. Darwin's theory of evolution dictates biological males to spread the seeds. It's the age old q. if boys sleep around they get a high five from dad. if girls do it they are sluts. there's no way around it if you require we maintain the standards & concepts of Femininity.
The teacher's dilemma is all about power.
If Mrs. Robinson gave the green light then it's a GO on the carrier takeoff.
2007-05-21 07:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if the age gap is bigger than 4yrs, then it does look a bit weird - say a 24yr old guy was going out with a 16yr old then i would probably think that the lad has other things in mind, but if it was the other way round, i'd say that the girl maybe likes the attention.
i think it's the teacher's abuse of authority. but then again, i cant really say who is allowed to go out with who coz i'm just me, no-one else. well, that's what i think anyways
2007-05-21 07:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in high school out art teacher (a man) was seeing a female student and after graduation they got married. Her parents were okay with the relationship and no one thought it was a big deal. I think it varies by situation and what the public, parents, school officials (and media) want to make out the situation.
2007-05-21 07:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by ecogeek4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's an authority thing (although the age can certainly be a part of it).
It's still wrong (and forbidden in most cases) for a college professor to date his or her students, and they are all above the age of consent.
2007-05-21 14:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the event that they have only been relationship for 3months then is getting married truly that top on their time table precise now?? If I have been her, i might only communicate with reference to the guy like I communicate approximately my friends--insert him into the communication sometimes. That way the mothers and fathers experience as though they understand him formerly you drop the bomb of OMG i admire HIM!
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