My husband is going to spend at least 20 years in prison. I have been emailing an x-boyfriend and I think that some old feelings have come back. The problem is the old boyfriend is all the way on the other side of The US, I probably will never get to see him either. But is it okay if I still talk to him and say I love you to him?????
2007-05-21 06:20:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, so he's not my husband. He's my baby daddy!!! We have two kids together. We never got married, but he likes for me to call him my husband and he calls me his wife.
2007-05-21 12:19:50 · update #1
Your husband chose to do a crime. Now he has to do the time. Nobody could expect you to just sit around for 20 years, when it was his decision to risk your togetherness over some stupid criminal act. At this point, I would say that it is not wrong to pursue happiness, regardless of where it might lead. You only get one crack at this life. Enjoy!
2007-05-21 06:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are not planing to act on it, why not. You are just emailing him, not seeing him. It has to be hard to know that your husband is going to be spending the next 20 years behind bars. Having to live with that has to be the hardest thing to bare. If emailing an old beau helps you through this, then go for it. After all, he's on the other side of the country so its not like you are gong to jump in the car and go F#ck him, right???
2007-05-21 13:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by syns_pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!! If you continue this talk with your ex, and if your husband comes back, what are you going to do then? You are bring drama into your life, because you still care for your ex. If you don't want to be with your husband, then file for divorce and move on, and date whoever. But the fact is that you're still married, and talking to your ex and telling him that you love him is wrong. Obviously, when you go visit your husband, you are not going to tell him that you've been having feelings for your ex and saying that you love your ex. You are trying to keep this away from your husband, therefore, you are cheating.
2007-05-21 13:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is being married, whether together or in prison...if you want another, divorce him and move on...if not, leave the ex-boyfriend alone and wait 20 years on your hubby....just because he is in prison, doesn't mean you have the right to cheat on him...if you and the ex are just friends, fine..but you should NOT be telling him that you love him...
2007-05-21 13:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married is MARRIED. If you want to move on and get involved with someone else, even cross-country on the Net, get a divorce first. I'd say a 20-year prison sentence is a good reason.
2007-05-21 13:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Terri J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong and you know it. It can happen to anyone though. If you love your husband, stop contacting the ex. If you feel there is no hope for you ans your husband, get a divorce and move on, Good Luck!
2007-05-21 13:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are committed to your husband, then it would be wrong to say I love you to another man. You need to tell your husband so you can know your limits. You may have to dump your husband because 20 years is a long time to wait and people(like you) get urges.
2007-05-21 13:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Feel Realgood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep - you are still married. If you truly believe that you want to end your marriage and move on with your life - you need to divorce your husband and move on. Remember .. how would you feel if this were turned around? It's unfortunate that your husband has aquired this sentance - but I don't believe anyone would fault you for wanting to go on with your life. Good luck.
2007-05-21 13:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by DCD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your husband is going to prison, TC. That is a shame for both of you. And I am sorry your love for him meant so little that you are abandoning him when he needs you most. What a sad, sad state of affairs. Sure, if it gives you solace to try to find someone new, go ahead. In the end he won't mean anything to you either.
2007-05-21 13:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can still talk to him but don't say you love him unless you know you do. Sounds like you are just lonely and need someone to talk to. He is on the other side of the US, and if you tell him that you love him, he might think about coming back for you or asking you to come to him.. Are you ready for that?.
2007-05-21 13:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋